So true. You explained it better than I did haha.Another thing is look at them in stage all luxurious outfits hair makeup etc, so we look at it like ''omg look at him/her doesn't look real'', that's one of the trick folks, they look so unreal that we treat them as if they are Gods, they will never go on stage in the clothes they use everyday neither normal looking because it won't claim attention. ''A wolf in sheep's clothing'' (Not only kpop but pop in general).
There is something that i read on a site (maybe reddit again) i want to say to everyone who still trapped in this lie (as i still trying to get completely out as well) that said: You don't love your Idol, you love the image of him/her that you created in your mind. And i will add in my words: And he/her is not like that, when you don't know someone or something, they can be whatever you want them to be, but this is only going to happen in your mind.
How many of us don't lay in bed and start to dream of having a amazing life with our favorite idols etc etc? We don't face reality, because reality isn't so pleasant right? But only when we face reality we are able to change things we don't like. Take care of yourselves guys, look at your house, your room, the ones who are really here, not someone who is miles away and don't even know who you are.
As i also read in reddit: For you, your idols are everything, for them, you are just another crazy fan.