Rather she's saying it's better to try and help them heal from their traumas rather than telling them how they have lifestyles that God doesn't agree with. We all live or started in lifestyles that He didn't agree with but shoving the gospel down someone's throat that has already probably heard it and heard every slur under the sun isn't going to be receptive to our good news.
This should be where church and community become integral in helping the afflicted come to understand God and help each other over our individual stumbling blocks.
Imagine being molested repeatedly as a child and not understanding that someone took your consent, body, and power to manipulate you for their own sexual gratification. You might choose to live a lifestyle that you believe empowers you, gives you back control, and let's you escape that trauma. Many porn stars have been abused and get into porn to try and reclaim that power in a way that feels right to them.
Giving the gospel isn't hateful but for someone that feels possibly abandoned and hated, who endeavors to live a life where people accept and love them despite how that life may come across to others is their prerogative. If we as Christians aren't willing to do more than give the gospel and can't bear to be around 'Homos' or other undesirables how are we loving our neighbors?
So if church won't allow certain individuals in or try to help them and some rando comes knocking at your, a molested traumatized individual that never fully understood or overcame it, telling you you're living life wrong/God doesn't like your ugly/here's a bible. Who is actually going to be receptive to that type of judgemental message?
So are we going to help the non hetero individual or just give the gospel and go on our way or are we going to invite these individuals into our churches, get to know them and their problems, show them love and respect so that we can help heal them and let them know they aren't alone? We can't really help anyone when cloak ourselves in Christianity to give the gospel but when we remove the cloak in private we let our hate spew out. Life and death are in the power of the tongue and it does us no harm to bear our brothers burden.
Giving a broken person the gospel and no healing or guidance is giving them a hand grenade with the pin pulled.
Is that what you think soul winning is about?
Spewing “hatred”, judgment & “forcing the Gospel down someone’s throat”?
Literally NONE of that occurs.
First of all, we go out in pairs. We choose a neighborhood & go door to door. If someone answers we smile, are respectful & kind.
We ASK if we can have a moment of their time.
If they say yes, we thank them & ask if they were to die today are they certain they will go to Heaven.
If they say yes, we say that’s great! And ask them why are they going to Heaven? If they respond that they are saved & know it is by grace through faith alone in Jesus Christ, we ask if they can lose their salvation. If they say no, we know that person is genuinely saved & will offer them a free KJB if they don’t already own one, and give them a flyer for our church to join us for services & fellowship.
Then we answer any questions they may ask, thank them for their time & move on to the next house.
If they say no, we (again) ASK if we can show them from the Bible how to be saved.
If they say yes, we thank them again then give them the Gospel.
Answer more questions backing it up with Scripture.
If they say no or not interested, we thank them anyway, wish them a nice day & move on.
There’s no point in railing on them about their sins....most people already realize they are sinners; we all are.
We are there to deliver the Good News(Gospel ) about HOW they can be saved.
That’s it.
