But again you’re going back to the concept of one controlling and one being controlled which imo is toxic. Most toxic relationships tend to end, that’s true.
One thing you seem to be blinded on is that the church plays an integral role in your marriage structure. If you’re saying the flow of life went God->church->man ->woman then now that the church is pretty corrupt it is a break in that chain.
But what is that tie that is passed from God to church etc. You seem to think it’s power or authority, which gives this whole structure you are presenting an underlying element of control . Why is it not love? Was that not the single commandment given by Jesus? Is that not the relationship between god, man, woman, church? Did Christ teach power and control structures or did he teach love? Does love control or give freedom to that which it loves? Would you not say that when love is absent, then control, power, domineering come to replace it? When love is present none of those things are necessary?
look at Christ’s life, he allowed himself to be crucified, he layed down his life as an act of love. If he had power over life and death to raise the dead and heal the sick could he not have saved himself? He didn’t because love doesnt control, he showed the highest form of love that has existed in that