how many parents are going to go along with gender neutrality Or transgenderism for toddlers and small children? Typically that doesn’t start til middle or High school or even later.. at which point you’ve had a vastly different experience from born members of that gender.I think if a little girl has short hair, and is dressed like a boy, then the world might react to her as a boy. After they hit puberty, it's easier to tell males and females apart in most cases.