You know - if you share theories openly - it could be considered as rumors. In my country anyone could be sued for "theories" if the victim/subject consider it as defamation that bother him. You can't hide behind the word "theory" forever. "Theories" are not as harmless as you think.
About grandmas/member sacrifice - I've seen it in this exact forum, an all old/established members know what I'm talking about.
You shouldn't be concerned for boys - they chose their career/path themselves and now grown adult people/maybe way older than you - to keep the choice.
Whatever they choose in life - it's only their own business. We should mind our own business. Strangers (that maybe never ever seen them in life) shouldn't be concerned for any their choice. The don't need you anonymous ""care""/"concern". Let people live their life and take consequences whatever it is.
""All the evil things surrounding them"" - only in your eyes that could be subjective and wrong. Not in their /my eyes.
I do need to care bcuz i don't want their business that's not considered 'wrong' to affect my siblings and future kids