Soul mates, to me, seems like a Hallmark or rom-com movie trope. I wanted to believe in it, but honestly real love is agape love not eros or romantic love. That ebbs and flows with sex drive and growing older. Real love is sacrificial, which most people don't understand, myself included. I wanted to love a certain man sacrificially and planned to, but it was unrequited even though he made the first moves. I've had a front row seat to my parents' and others' terrible marriages where longevity doesn't equal happiness in marriage. Where one sacrifices 100% and the other only when they feel like it. Yes, I'm jaded and think soul mates is a load of crap. Real love is two people deciding to love one another and refusing to give up on one another. So, in a sense, I've seen that bit, yet both need to give 100%. I've seen one person get taken advantage, but then that person also made me a sounding board and complained. Anyway, long story short, soul mates seems like a load of crap to me. Hence why sometimes arranged marriages actually worked. They married and learned how to love each other instead of marrying for sex confused with love and realized they made a mistake but just decided to live with it for 50 years.