This topic was discussed on reddit. I agree with
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Sex and relationships aren't needs, not are they human rights. Yet they're considered so. That's why what people respond to mgtow or incels is generally 'you should become gay' or 'you should become lesbian' if they can't get into a relationship, because even to people who are against homosexuality, it's still a more realistic alternative to heterosexuality than complete celibacy.
Heterosexuality is a sexual orientation .
Heteronormativity is the sum of ideals, assumptions, social expectations.
I went to a foreign country and noticed guys there were much more put-together and vain than in my homecountry so my first instinct was to think a good chunk of them were gay. But i soon found out it wasn't the case.
When i pointed this out, some were offended but one person said "this is why the birth rate is declining". This made me ponder, because there's not supposed to be any correlation between men being what would traditionnally be viewed as effeminite and the birth rate.
But it made it clear that gender is actually a byproduct of heterosexuality. Historically we have viewed and categorized human behaviour as a binary. That's why so many hetero people make their sexual orientation their identity, bc they grew up in a culture that ties gender (not just the way you look and present yourself, but also your behaviour, mannerisms, interests, job, etc...) to your sexual orientation. Even amongst lesbians, they have the terms "butch" and "femme" to denote this binary. And people generally assume a "femme" lesbian is hetero at first glance.
Most of us have been fed this script since we were born, and as a female travelling alone i had many random guys interfere in my day to "help" me with stuff because they've been told they should be the "knight in shining armour" and that women are "damsels in distress". This applies even in non-romantic relationsips, even random strangers try to force that script onto you. We all reenact them to some extent, i myself am guilty of this, and i gave up sports when i began puberty because i thought sports wasn't for "girls" and regret it now, i was completely brainwashed.
This conception of human behaviour as a binary has led to the couple being the unit as opposed to the individual which is a breeding ground for codependency.