Don't listen to Kung Fu. He has been a misogynist for years. He's a quasi-Muslim body-builder with Oedipal issues who talks socialist shit about the Western society in which he lives and enjoys all the first-world freedoms, comforts and benefits. I keep waiting for him to throw off his "chains of oppression" and move to a mujahadeen training camp with no air conditioning and you have to boil the water before you drink it. Yet, here he is, tantruming his way into another conversation in which he has nothing intelligent or positive to contribute.
Kerri, what you are saying absolutely makes sense: It's a two way street and in the 21st Century, both male and female humans have a responsibility to control their own child-bearing. Because science.
Come to think of it, there is no reason that some scientist or pharmaceutical company couldn't make a pill to reduce a man's fertility. It would probably sell like hotcakes, to the men who DO take seriously their responsibility, to themselves and the world, to not spew an endless stream of gametes into society at large. Lord knows, they should have come up with something better than condoms by now. Those are from the Middle Ages, ffs. A pill is far less drastic than a vasectomy, which, let's face it, few men are going to go there.
Incidentally, saying something like "women have all the reproductive control" makes it sound like we have a secret magic dial on our bodies, and we decide to crank it from "not pregnant" to "pregnant" whenever we feel like it. To that, I respond with a rousing and emphatic "F. U." If we had "total reproductive control," we wouldn't need to worry about the failure rates of various contraception methods, the necessary evil of clinical abortion (and whether it will or won't stay legal), deadbeat/abusive/murderous baby-daddies, dreams deferred or killed by unwanted and/or early pregnancies, and pregnancies caused by r*pe/date-r*pe/molestation.
Women would not have been throwing themselves down flights of stairs, drinking poison and submitting themselves to horrific "amateur surgeries" for literally thousands of years. We certainly would not have had to put up with being shunned, vilified or even killed by irate and uncompassionate fathers, religions, societies for the "dishonor" of pregnancy. The impoverished in our country, and around the world, would not be composed in the main of single mothers and children forced to bear the socio-economic impact of what amounts to a losing hand in the poker-game of life, just for the "sin" of existing.
You may as well castigate someone for getting a toothache or a sunburn. Sure, there are factors one can control in preventing it from happening, but circumstances won't be optimal all the time, and it's going to happen, sometimes despite someone's best efforts or intentions. If an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of a cure, then why would any reasonable man refuse to add a second ounce to the equation?