Why Feminism isn't needed anymore (except in 3rd world countries)

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How can a person consent when they are drunk (under a mind altering substance)? Sometimes people use alcohol to get people drunk and have sex with them. The best thing to do is to not have sex with a drunk person... especially if they're drunk and you're not, that's blatantly taking advantage of someone.
So who raped who if two people are both drunk and have sex? They both go to the police and accuse each other of r*pe?

I said nothing of one person being drunk and the other not. But even if that was the case what do we say about the women's decision making to where she would get black out drunk around men who could potentially assault her? Again, this isn't to say that anyone deserves r*pe for getting drunk but that poor decision making can lead to bad consequences. A sentiment, that isn't really being said by modern feminists...
 




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Your presenting a problem that doesnt really happen. you claim its prevalent but based on what?? If youbhave something that proves that please share, id love to see it.

Women are taught damn near from birth not to go out alone, to not go oht in the dark, to be cautious what we wear lest soneone get the wrobg idea, to stay in groups, to never put down their drink.. hell most of the time we dont even go to the bathroom alone. What your seeing now is backlash to that because it isnt fair we have to constantly monitor or own movements in the world, constantly be alert to danger and scared becausr we were born with vaginas.

That isnt freedom and it isnt something men have to worry about.
 




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Have you ever got drnk with friends? At a party? At a bar/club? Have you ever overdone it a bit? If someone took advantage of you on those ocxassions - which are perfectly notmal and acceptable for a man - would it be your fault?
 




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So who raped who if two people are both drunk and have sex?
If both people are drunk it's just a bad decision.
They both go to the police and accuse each other of r*pe?
No... has anyone ever done that? It would not make sense.
But even if that was the case what do we say about the women's decision making to where she would get black out drunk around men who could potentially assault her?
The rapist should be blamed, not the victim.
A sentiment, that isn't really being said by modern feminists...
Everyone including feminists understands the common sense of keeping oneself safe to the best of their ability... But people shouldn't have to be afraid to go out because other people are rapists, the rapists should be the ones who are controlled.
 




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you think this only happens when alone? or with people u dont know and trust? that is a bit naive.. date r*pe is a thing, its way way more common for a woman to be assaulted by someone she knows then stranger r*pe.

yeah we have to teach our girls some things too but personal responsibility ends where criminal behavior begins.
Men and women who aren't related can't be friends and thus shouldn't be hanging around together.

Personal responsibility never ends. Criminal behaviour will always be around no matter what and the best defense is to stay aware and stay away from places where you know you can be hurt. For example, you as a female shouldn't be walking down a dark alleyway at 1 in the morning in a bad area knowing that you can be possibly raped. People do bad things regardless of what the law says and the only thing that will keep you safe first and foremost is yourself.
 




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Everyone including feminists understands the common sense of keeping oneself safe to the best of their ability... But people shouldn't have to be afraid to go out because other people are rapists, the rapists should be the ones who are controlled.
But rapists and other criminal behaviour can't be controlled and never will be. And this is where personal responsibility comes into play. You have to be smart and vigilant and know to stay away from places where there's lots of alcohol consumption, drugs, and etc.
 




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that is where we disagree... violent stranger rapes may be completely oyt of our control but there are definately things we could be doing as a society to decrease the more common types of r*pe, things that dont require limiting womens freedoms.
 




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Well, if you have sex with someone who is too intoxicated to remember what they are doing... That's r*pe, chief. No matter what she saying while she's drunk and not in full control of what she's doing, or what she said was okay before she got that drunk. Would you be cool with someone having sex with your sister or daughter, who got so drunk she couldn't remember what happened? I'd wager you wouldn't...
My scenario didnt include the details you are adding in. I said two drunk people having consensual sex to where the next day the female regrets or doesn't remember the act and cries r*pe. When are the feminists going to speak out against that? Should men create an ism to combat that ill that is DEFINITELY prevalent in society or are we going to pretend that it doesn't happen that much if at all? Asking if I'd be cool with r*pe is feminazi 101. Which is why I continually repeat that no one deserves to be raped.
 




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If both people are drunk it's just a bad decision.

No... has anyone ever done that? It would not make sense.
This is why you should have left it at what I said (2 drunks) and not changed it to what you said (sober male/drunk female)

The rapist should be blamed, not the victim.
Yes I didn't say any different. But a rapist is going to r*pe no matter what laws you put in place. So women should be taking responsibility to not make poor decisions that increase the chances of an assault happening (no dark alleys late at night, don't get blackout drunk around strangers etc...)

I have gold, but you won't see me in certain areas with it on at certain times of day. Why? Because I'm taking personal precaution so that I'm not a victim of a crime. In a perfect world, I'd be able to wear whatever I wanted, where ever I wanted, whenever I wanted. But we're not in a perfect world so I take precaution. It seems feminists don't stress taking precaution as much as they do pretending as if there's a r*pe or sexual assault culture amongst all or even most men..
Everyone including feminists understands the common sense of keeping oneself safe to the best of their ability... But people shouldn't have to be afraid to go out because other people are rapists, the rapists should be the ones who are controlled.
There's a difference between fear and precaution.
 




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I said two drunk people having consensual sex to where the next day the female regrets or doesn't remember the act and cries r*pe.
But when does that happen? You make it seem like a widespread epidemic but it doesn't seem very common. If it were such a prevalent problem then you would see more people and feminists speaking out about it. If you want more people to talk about it then you should be raising awareness and providing statistics that demonstrate there is such a problem.
When are the feminists going to speak out against that?
Individually on a case by case basis I'm sure they do. If they hear of someone ever doing something like that, surely most people including feminists would be against it.
 




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I'm sorry but I don't see why I'd need to prove to you that there are women who make false or misguided r*pe accusations.
because the acyual rate of false claims is something like 3% and includes claims that arent necessatily false but lack corroboration or the victim was inconsistant (which happens with trauma).

if you are going to assert something which contradicts legal and academic consensus, you are going to have to back up your claim.

for the record every rapist i ever met says the victim wanted it, even when the victim in question is 5 years old. just like every inmate in prison is innocent.
 




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So women should be taking responsibility to not make poor decisions that increase the chances of an assault happening (no dark alleys late at night, don't get blackout drunk around strangers etc...)
Yes, people do those things to protect themselves.
It seems feminists don't stress taking precaution as much as they do pretending as if there's a r*pe or sexual assault culture amongst all or even most men..
Feminists stress that both are important. But feminism is concerned with women's freedom so they will talk more about how to actually stop rapists and fix society rather than placing the burden upon women to have to take a bunch of precautionary measures to protect themselves from r*pe.
 




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I'm sorry but I don't see why I'd need to prove to you that there are women who make false or misguided r*pe accusations.
most rapes do not happen in dark alleys. they arent perpetrated by strangers.

what you are basically saying is men cant be trusted, live in fear. i personally have more faith in men in general.
 




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its like people are completely unaware that every little girl is taught these things, and then again as teenagers... why do they think we dont even pee alone?

we shouldnt have to reduce our freedom at all to prevent being raped or assaulted.. but people clearly still think the majority of the burden lies on us..

this alone should demonstrate why feminism is still needed
 




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I agree. I think it starts with cutting back on alcohol consumption. Because there is hardly ever security anywhere. And when they are, they are terrible. There's not much to keep the bros in check.

People should be able to go out and have fun in a safe environment. I mean why is this even a question? People need to start looking in the mirror. Because we are getting the world we apparently want. One that isn't really that safe for anyone. We have to resort to not going out in public much. And it's dumb, like that's not a solution.

We might as well give everyone magic bullets. But that's forbidden in the Bible.
Some can handle alcohol. Some end up loud and douchey
 




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But when does that happen? You make it seem like a widespread epidemic but it doesn't seem very common. If it were such a prevalent problem then you would see more people and feminists speaking out about it. If you want more people to talk about it then you should be raising awareness and providing statistics that demonstrate there is such a problem.
All you have to do is google it or watch the news. There's plenty of stories about it if you'd look into it. You can't bring statistics on these kinds of things so just look up the stories yourself and see how men can get convicted of r*pe based of the word of a female. That was my point. That a drunken consensual night between two people can turn to a r*pe accusation the next day because the female either regrets or doesn't remember what happened. This is one example of how, unlike feminism would lead us to believe, society caters to females more so than men

And I'm not here to make this society a better place so I don't care about spreading awareness to the majority.
 




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Yes, people do those things to protect themselves.
Yes so responsibility lies in the female to not increase the chances of a potential sexual assault by making poor decisions

Feminists stress that both are important. But feminism is concerned with women's freedom so they will talk more about how to actually stop rapists and fix society rather than placing the burden upon women to have to take a bunch of precautionary measures to protect themselves from r*pe.
Child support laws/custody battles benefit women moreso than men. Divorce/alimony same thing. Welfare same thing. An accusation of sexual assault can get a person jailed/punished even with no proof and feminists still want us to believe that women are being held back...
 




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because the acyual rate of false claims is something like 3% and includes claims that arent necessatily false but lack corroboration or the victim was inconsistant (which happens with trauma).

if you are going to assert something which contradicts legal and academic consensus, you are going to have to back up your claim.
I don't believe there is a solidified way to get stats on how many women have falsely accused someone of r*pe so I definitely question that 3% number. On the flip side you can google and find story after story of false/misguided r*pe accusations from high and low profile men

for the record every rapist i ever met says the victim wanted it, even when the victim in question is 5 years old. just like every inmate in prison is innocent.
Your personal and anecdotal experiences are relevant to you but shouldn't be relevant to the public when trying to come to a consensus about something.