The whole entire culture is screwed.
I agree and I think that is the problem that needs fixing if anything. Abortions is like a band aid to the open wound that is this culture that glorifies and promotes sex between random, non committed people. If this culture shamed this activity, people would do it less. If this culture said "no abortion except in cases for rapes/incest" you'd see people take greater care to not put themselves in situations that could result in a baby.
I do not demonize men. I love men. Toxic masculinity - the idea - is not about men and women are quite often just as guilty of it as any man is. It is a system that hurts men just as much as it hurts women. I am saying this as a woman who very deeply loves a man who I can see with my own two eyes was hurt by it but will never admit it. I’m saying this as a mother of a son I’m trying to protect from it because his sensitivity and his compassion are beautiful things about him that the world does not have any business trying to squash out of him. How can I demonize or hate men when half the people I love are men? That doesn’t even make sense.
Well when you say that men have a r*pe culture amongst them, it gives off a different vibe. And I've had racists like me, and I have liked racists. Meaning people who had negative feelings about black people in general, have took a liking to me and vice versa. But that didnt change their feelings for the whole. Im not questioning your feelings for the whole or the men in your life. Im just going off of what you're presenting here.
And if it makes you feel better I typically can’t stand women. I have very few female friends (like two) and don’t generally get along with women at all. Of course women can be just as toxic. Often it’s a different kind of toxic that for some reason isn’t addressed as harshly - I suspect because it lacks physical aggression so it doesn’t risk rising to the criminal level or isn’t viewed “as bad” idk. Just because I talk about toxic masculinity or because I will identify myself as a feminist does not mean I do not see this or do not think it’s important. I do behavioral modification with children. Every single one of my clients has been a boy. In every single classroom I’ve seen atleast one girl who needed it as much if not more yet wasn’t even referred for the service. My eyes are open. But the existence of one problem doesn’t negate the existence of another.
Usually the man says he wants the kid, he’ll take care of the kid and then a shortly after its born decides he’s over it and skates. Of course there are examples of both but none of the people I know who have had children outside of marriage where led to believe anything other than the man wanted the kid and would Be there for it. Now if this is some sort of side effect of men not feeling comfortable speaking up idk. It’s possible. But we would all be way better off if we put our cards on the table from day one and stopped playing stupid games.
What would really make me feel better if people would try to look at things from the elite's vantage point. They're doing this to split up the home, and to debase the man You may not believe it or want to believe it, but thats what it is. They dont care about making the average woman equal or how they're being treated or mistreated. They want to split up the homes, debase the man, and cause as much chaos as they're allowed, before then coming up with a solution to the chaos THEY caused.. Thats the name of the game. I really say this to the men though. For the most part, women arent going to give up the empowerment they're receiving from society till they're forced to.
"Usually the man wants the kid, then skates".. See this is demonizing men. If men are mostly bad parents then whats causing that? And if its causing it for men, why isnt it causing it for women? This ties back into the lack of a "toxic femininity" hashtag. The reason there isnt one is because the bullseye is on the man.
