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Me too! I forgot about this thread. You will be sorry DesertRose. :D
What themes haven't been covered for a while?
No worries, glad you are here feel free to peruse and give us insight into infp peeps!
I will respond to you and @Maes17 tomorrow God willing.
 





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In depth explanations have not been covered for mbti so far was looking at other tests such as the hexaco.

Found these yesterday:)
  • beckawang:
    INTP: How genuinely curious you are about the world–your unquenchable thirst to learn.
    ENTP: How quick-witted and original you are, how you’re always challenging ideas and concepts.
    INTJ: How intelligent yet objective you are, how you’re always trying to see things from multiple and new perspectives.
    ENTJ: How strong-willed and passionate you are about your work and your future goals.
    ESTJ: How confident you are with yourselves, and how reliant you are no matter what problem arises.
    ISTJ: How dutiful, committed, and responsible you are no matter the obligation.
    ESTP: How bold and spontaneous you are, how you’re always pushing boundaries and trying to live life to its fullest.
    ISTP: How flexible yet relaxed you are, how you can just “go with the flow” and see where life takes you.
    INFJ: How insightful and trustworthy you are, how amazing you are at listening.
    INFP: How open-minded and optimistic you are, how you always see the good in everyone.
    ENFP: How beautiful your mind is, how you’re a true dreamer and have the most amazing ideas.
    ENFJ: How wise and charismatic you are, and your unsurpassable capacity to love.
    ESFJ: How fun and generous you are, how you always want everyone to have the best time.
    ESFP: How entertaining and lively you are, life is never boring around you.
    ISFJ: How loyal and caring you are, how willing you are to help your friends.
    ISFP: How warm and supportive you are, how sensitive you are to others’ emotions.


  • What the types are mostly not able to do
    • INTJ: fully understand the way of thinking and the feelings of other people
    • INTP: fit in ideals
    • ENTJ: forgive
    • ENTP: let others convince them
    • INFP: completely accept ignorance and privacy of other people
    • INFJ: analyze a problem without overthinking
    • ENFJ: be chill while working
    • ENFP: decide for ONE option in a given amount of time
    • ISTJ: imagine odd and creative possibilities
    • ISFJ: Calm down when they're under stress
    • ESTJ: Accept new things that they don't consider as normal
    • ESFJ: Say no
    • ISTP: Realize the importance of some things
    • ISFP: routine
    • ESTP: imagine themselves in situations of other people
    • ESFP: have the guts to give in and tell the truth, when they did something wrong
 





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@Maes17 welcome to this thread...….refuge of lighthearted fun ps I agree with your statement up yonder...;)

Each Myers-Briggs Type’s Kryptonite
By Heidi Priebe, November 6th 2015

Just like our favourite superheroes, each Myers-Briggs personality type has one great weakness – something that simultaneously attracts them and has the power to destroy them. Find your type below to determine which of your inherent traits has the ability to lead you headfirst into both your greatest triumphs and your greatest downfalls.


ISFJ – Self-sacrifice.
ISFJs are down-to-earth, focused and capable – but they’re also self-sacrificing to a fault. This type has a tendency to internalize almost everything that happens to and around them – therefore taking on responsibility for problems that don’t necessarily involve them. The tendency to adopt external problems as their own is the ISFJ’s kryptonite.
ISFP – Sensitivity.
The ISFP’s sensitivity is what makes them brilliantly creative and unique – but it’s also what holds them back in many ways. Because this type dislikes conflict so intensely, they have a tendency to run for the hills as soon as they foresee a tense situation arising – holding them back from pursuing many relationships or opportunities that could otherwise be beneficial for them. This type’s sensitive nature is one of their greatest strengths but their aversion to criticism or conflict is their Achilles heel.
ESFP – The need for approval.
ESFPs have fiercely engaging personalities – this is both their greatest strength and their greatest setback. Though this type is capable of achieving just about anything they set their mind to, they also feel the compulsive need to have everyone around them like them – which occasionally makes them back down from situations that they ought to stand their ground in. The need for approval is in part what makes the ESFP so successful, but it is in equal part their personal kryptonite.
ESFJ – Obedience.
ESFJs are incredibly in tune with the norms, values and expectations of the social world that surrounds them. They are tirelessly careful to not violate any social rules and as a result are often obedient to others’ expectations, even when they are not in complete agreement with them. Learning to stand up for themselves – even if it means violating a social or societal rule – is something the ESFJ needs to work on throughout their lives if they do not want their personal kryptonite to rob them of the things they want most.
ENFP – The ‘Greener Grass’ Syndrome.
ENFPs are ceaselessly scanning the horizons for new, exciting opportunities that they haven’t tried yet. Even when they’re perfectly content with their lives, this enthusiastic type is prone to abandoning a good thing in favor of the next, potentially better thing. Their never-ending quest for the next great thrill – and their corresponding aversion to stick with what they love – is the ENFP’s Achilles heel.
ENFJ – The Urge To Interfere.
ENFJs are highly perceptive individuals, who usually have a keen grasp on what is likely to help or hinder their loved ones. As a consequence, they often feel compelled to intervene in the lives of their loved ones, perceiving themselves to know what’s best for them. This can not only lead to tension and conflict if the ENFJ is not careful, but it will also exhaust them to the core as they try to care for everyone around them at all times. The compulsion to help those who are struggling is the ENFJ’s personal kryptonite.
INFJ – Perfectionism.
INFJs aren’t perfectionists in the stereotypical sense of the word – they aren’t the most detail-oriented type nor are they the most outright neurotic. However, they are prone to deliberating over their options to a detrimental extent – trying so hard to pinpoint the best of all possible options that they end up missing out on opportunities altogether. Attempting to always seek out the most perfect situation – and refusing to take a chance on anything less – is the INFJ’s Achilles heel.
INFP – Idealization Of Others.
People, situations, opportunities, problems – you name it, the INFP can idealize it. This type lives largely inside their own minds and while their wild imaginations help them in many ways, they can also create a disconnect between the INFP and reality, particularly in the arena of love. It is their proneness to idealizing potential partners that so often breaks apart INFP relationships before they even begin – when the other person fails to live up to the standard the INFP had created for them internally. The urge to distort reality with fantasy is the INFP’s kryptonite.
INTP – Inaction.
INTPs see the world in an objective, rational and creative fashion – a mixture of perceptions that almost no other type shares. However, the INTP is often so busy contemplating and readjusting their worldview that they forget to apply their perceptions to real-world actions. The disinclination to act on their thoughts and ideas is the INTP’s kryptonite.
ENTP – Indecision.
ENTPs are enthused about life in almost every capacity – they love planning for the future, speculating over the present and evaluating the past. The world is an all-you-can-eat-buffet for this highly ambitious type and yet they can never decide on just one dish. As excitable as they are ambitious, the ENTP often finds themselves torn between various projects, goals and undertakings, unable to commit to just one. Indecision is the one thing that holds this type back from truly excelling – you might say it is their kryptonite.
INTJ – Sociality.
INTJs are brilliant individuals who can reason their way through just about any situation – except social situations. Before their introverted feeling is developed, INTJs often experience difficulty picking up on social nuances, which makes navigating the external world a challenge for them. They may see a clear path to the implementation of their goals, but if they must network or win over people to get there, they will experience difficulty along the way. Socialization is the one realm that logic does not always apply to, and it is therefore INTJ’s personal kryptonite.
ENTJ – Competitiveness.
ENTJs see a direct route to everything they want – and what they want is to be the best at everything. While this highly resourceful type is prone to dominating opponents at much of what they do, the urge to win can occasionally get the better of them. They may find themselves ignoring the long-term consequences of many of their actions as they fight to keep the upper hand in the short-term. The desire to always be on top (rather than to play the long game) is the ENTJ’s kryptonite.
ISTJ – Change.
ISTJs are all about quality. They want to use the tried and true method of getting everything done – because why take a chance on something that hasn’t proven itself to be reliable? Though this quality is useful for the ISTJ in many ways, it also makes them highly resistant to change. They have trouble believing without seeing, so they often resist changes until they’ve had enough time to concretely witness the positive outcomes of the change – by which point, the rest of society has already moved onto something new.
ISTP – Passiveness.
ISTPs are incredibly analytical thinkers, who can quickly determine the most direct route to getting something done. However, this type prefers analyzing systems to acting on them – which means that many of their brilliant ideas never come to fruition. Despite being incredibly capable individuals by nature, the ISTP’s passiveness often causes them to underperform.
ESTJ – Subjectivity.
ESTJs are incredibly logical individuals who truly believe that they see the world in the most clear, objective fashion possible. What this type often fails to realize, however, is that their value judgments of the world are highly subjective. What they deem as important is not what the next person deems as important and vice versa. Failing to realize this, the ESTJ often spends a great deal of time frustrated with others for behaving illogically. If this highly rational type were a little more comfortable with accepting that everyone looks at the world differently, they’d be able to save time on lecturing others and use that time to get more sh*t done.
ESTP – Impulsivity.
ESTPs are incredibly resourceful and capable – but their impulsivity often gets the better of them, causing them to cave into short-term desires rather than pursuing long-term achievements. A quick, on-the-fly reaction time is at the core of this type’s personality – but it’s also their Achilles heel.
 





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12 Secrets of the INFP Personality Type


Anyone with the INFP or “Mediator” personality cares deeply about other people. INFPs are unique individuals with a rare set of abilities — including the power to masterfully understand emotion and the human experience. At their best, INFPs bring emotional healing to others and inspire incredible change in the world. INFPs are also rare, making up about 4 to 5 percent of the population.

Are you an INFP? You might be if you identify with these 12 less obvious INFP personality traits.

(What’s your personality type? Take a free personality assessment.)

Secrets of the INFP Personality Type



1. An INFP needs to feel inspired.



This is one of the core INFP personality traits. INFPs live in a world of emotion and meaning. They need a certain level of emotional intensity in their life in order to feel like they are truly living. So INFPs may unconsciously seek out relationships that evoke strong feelings. Or they may turn to books, poetry, music, travel, or charity work that inspires them. However, if the passion or intrigue fades, INFPs may find themselves feeling restless. Dissatisfied, they may move on to another relationship or project that once again infuses their life with emotion.

2. INFPs are deeply in touch with their values.



Perhaps more than any other personality type, INFPs are deeply in touch with their personal values, because their dominant mental function is Introverted Feeling. This means INFPs make decisions by asking themselves, “What feels right for me?” INFPs are generally nonjudgmental and gentle, but they may find themselves reacting with anger or defensiveness when someone violates their values. This may happen when other personality types, such as “Thinking” types like the ENTJ, INTJ, or ESTJ, demand to know the rationale behind the INFP’s decision. But INFPs may not be able to offer logical reasons. They made a decision simply because they felt a certain way. When others criticize them for “not having a good reason,” the INFP may be left feeling invalidated. If this happens too much, sadly, the INFP may begin to doubt themselves and their most natural way of thinking.

3. INFPs want to connect with the essence of life.



Often, INFPs are lovers of nature who spend time outside or in the wilderness. They do this in an effort to passionately connect with what they see as the basic essence of life. Especially early in life, INFPs may become lone wanderers, as they travel and explore one place after another. They’re usually content with rather simple or Bohemian living arrangements, perhaps furnishing their homes with second-hand furniture and decor. Extravagant vacations, designer clothes, and fine meals aren’t a priority for the INFP, who values a simple life of meaning over a life of material goods.

4. Creative expression is the life blood of an INFP.



INFPs tend to excel at writing, music, or other forms of creative expression. This is true for many introverts, but for INFPs it’s because art allows them to express their deep feelings in an authentic way, explains personality profiler Antonia Dodge, co-owner of Personality Hacker, in a podcast about INFPs. INFPs may not be able to articulate their deep, personal feelings to friends and family in passing conversation, but they can create a painting or write a novel to immerse others in their emotional experience. It may be an emotional experience related to their own feelings, the feelings of another person they’ve come in contact with, or on a much wider scale, the feelings of the human experience in general.

5. INFPs are healers of emotional wounds.



In the Keirsey Temperament system, the INFP personality is nicknamed the “Healer.” And the nickname fits, because INFPs care deeply about the inner emotional lives of other people. According to the Keirsey web site, “Their great passion is to heal the conflicts that trouble individuals, or that divide groups, and thus to bring wholeness, or health, to themselves, their loved ones, and their community.” The INFP’s ability to heal springs from their deep understanding of emotions, their caring nature, and their ability to see things from a unique perspective.

6. Other people dump their problems on them.



Unfortunately, there can be a downside to being so gentle and outwardly receptive: other people dump their problems on you. Many INFPs end up in one-sided conversations in which the other person vents their feelings and complains, while the INFP listens patiently. Being the dumping ground for other people’s problems can give INFPs a sense of emotional heaviness, and in fact, many INFPs do have an air of melancholy about them. Spending time alone, immersed in a creative project or in nature, can help clear the INFP’s head. And, INFPs can learn to set boundaries to avoid getting “dumped on” in the future.

7. When INFPs feel passionate about something, watch out!



INFPs may see themselves as reluctant heroes. One minute they’re strolling through life, the next minute their passion has been awakened because they’ve stumbled across a person who needs their help. With their idealism driving them on, INFPs can be truly unstoppable.

That should be no surprise, given how many famous INFPs there are. INFPs have accomplished great things—think Joan of Arc, who, as a teenager with no military training, led the French army to victory over the British during the Hundred Years’ War.

According to Dodge, other famous INFPs include:
  • Princess Diana
  • Audrey Hepburn
  • Fred Rogers (a.k.a. “Mister Rogers,” possibly the most INFP person ever)
  • John Lennon
  • Kurt Cobain
  • Tori Amos
  • William Shakespeare
  • Helen Keller
  • Isabel Briggs Myers (creator of the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator — the original source of the Myers-Briggs INFP personality profile!)


Likewise, INFPs are often found helping people who are sick, disabled, or in need, writes Dr. A.J. Drenth of Personality Junkie. INFPs love rescuing the helpless; for example, they might adopt abandoned pets from an animal shelter or take up special causes that have affected them personally, such as raising money for research for a rare disease.

On the other hand, if INFPs don’t feel a sense of conviction, they tend to shut themselves off from the world. For INFPs, “when it doesn’t matter, it doesn’t matter. But when it matters…it matters big,” Joel Mark Witt, co-owner of Personality Hacker, told me.

8. INFPs don’t want just any job.



INFPs are not particularly driven by money or career status. What they really care about is doing work that aligns with their personal values and allows them to help others. Because INFPs are highly individualistic, they may feel dissatisfied working for a company or organization that they don’t personally believe in. INFPs are motivated by vision and inspiration, so they may become restless and unhappy if they have to do routine work often.

The ideal career match for an INFP will:
  • Allow them to express their individuality
  • Takes advantage of their ability to see unique solutions
  • Gives them independence in how they do their job — including how and when they complete projects


As they experiment in life, try new things, and find themselves, INFPs will inevitably narrow their interests and be better equipped to find work that truly resonates with them.

9. The people in their lives must share their values.



INFPs make wonderful partners and friends. They’re loyal, nurturing, and understanding. Self-aware and often spiritual, INFPs tend to be open-minded and accepting of other people’s preferences and behavior—as long as their own core values are not violated. They strongly support their friends’ and partners’ individuality, encouraging them to explore their own ideas and interests. However, they choose romantic partners and friends carefully—not just anyone will do. INFPs look for people whose values are similar to theirs. And they need someone with whom they can create deep emotional intimacy.

10. They shy away from conflict.



INFPs tend to be sensitive and have a strong need for harmonious relationships. Because of their open, accepting nature, they’re always looking for ways to compromise and accommodate other people. They are generally quite skilled at finding creative solutions to interpersonal problems. However, confronting someone can be difficult for them, so they may ignore problems or keep negative reactions to themselves.

11. INFPs can lead through inspiration.



INFPs are true introverts who prefer to stay out of the spotlight. They often spend time alone, immersed in their daydreams or creative projects. They tend to live quiet, simple lives. But this doesn’t mean that INFPs are not leaders. In fact, INFPs can be powerful leaders, because they have the ability to profoundly inspire others. When they tap into their passion, sense of meaning, and natural abilities of creative expression, they can get others excited about causes they believe in.

12. INFPs can grow by having new experiences.



The INFP’s secondary function, Extroverted Intuition, is a learning process that “sees behind the curtain,” so to speak. It perceives patterns in the INFP’s experiences and makes connections that aren’t necessarily obvious or inherent by definition. It asks, “What if?” and sees possibilities.

The way INFPs can grow on a personal level is by using this process to explore, make connections, and learn new things. For INFPs, this may mean traveling to new places, taking classes to learn new skills, joining groups or clubs to meet new people, or feeding their appetite for new information by reading or exploring the arts. The more INFPs have new experiences, the more they will add to their deep understanding of emotions and the human condition.


 





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I am actually extremely offended as I thought I was helping a friend for the right reason and they completely took it the wrong way. So the helper is hurt and doesn't want to help anyone any more. INFP is 100% correct today.
You tried and that is what counts.
Unfortunately, you can only help those who want to be helped.
 





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I am familiar with preppy and prep. school not prep left like that.:)
Here it is:
"Preppy or prep refers to a subculture in the United States associated with the old private Northeastern university-preparatory schools. "
Here is an interesting read:
https://personalitygrowth.com/heres-how-lenient-you-can-be-based-on-your-personality-type/
Oh a cultural difference there then. From memory ESTJ is the management CEO prototype, so my polar opposite. ESFJ is probably the socialite type too, so pretty well my opposite too. You need money to entertain.... and shallowness.:p (That IS bait to any ESFJ lurkers)

My older ESTP son definitely likes sports.
My ISTJ husband just as much - he is definitely not a nerd. He is way more J than P, slight S over N.
My INTP father is an extreme nerd.
My INTJ sister wore all the blacks and brown gothic type clothes which were so fashionable in early 90s.
My ENFP sister just loved clothes, shoes especially.
 





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Here’s What Your Happy Place Looks Like, Based on Your Personality Type


https://personalitygrowth.com/heres-what-your-happy-place-looks-like-based-on-your-personality-type/


Here’s What Your Happy Place Looks Like, Based on Your Personality Type


Everyone has their own idea of complete and utter heaven, but it is different or each person. What makes one individual happy could be complete misery for another. Here is what your happy place looks like, based on your personality type.



INFJ

The INFJs happy place is often somewhere peaceful and quiet, where they can be with their favorite person. Whether this be in a relaxing scene in nature, in a library, or in their bedroom. The truly happy feeling for the INFJ comes from being in complete calm, just sitting with someone that means the world to them. They enjoy sharing deep conversations with this person, but also being able to sit in silence just enjoying one another’s presence. INFJs often go inside of their own inner minds, creating their happy place inside of themselves. They enjoy having someone to share their time with though, and it makes them truly happy to feel this quiet connection with someone.
ENFJ


The ENFJs happy place consists of seeing everyone they love completely happy as well. They want to share time with the people they love most, and are happiest in their presence. Seeing everyone they love completely at ease, makes the ENFJs happiest because they feel a relief of stress. ENFJs are so focused on taking care of everyone else that they rarely get any time to actually enjoy themselves. Seeing everyone happy and taken care of makes the ENFJ feel a sense of joy and peace. Being able to relax and spend time with their favorite people is all they truly need.

INFP

The INFPs happy place is somewhere complete serene, where they can spend hours reading in complete silence. They often enjoy sharing this place with someone special, who appreciates them and can enjoy the quiet as well. For the INFP having someone who accepts them for who they are without judgement, is truly one of the most rewarding things. Being able to just relax with this person, reading or talking about their inner feelings and goals.

ENFP

The ENFP happy place often consists of plenty of entertainment and mentally stimulating activities. They don’t like being bored and anything too calm is actually more stressful for them. ENFPs also want to share their happy place with someone they love and enjoy being able to do things with that special person. They can lose patience with some people even if they don’t show it, so being around a group often isn’t the happiest place for the ENFP. They would rather be with someone they truly connect with who they can enjoy playing games or talking for hours.



INTJ

For the INTJ the happiest place is often spending time researching and reading in peace. To some this seems like stress but it is honestly the most relaxing and enjoyable thing for them. They might enjoy spending this time with one truly special person, but only someone who is capable of appreciating the silence when necessary. Most of the time the INTJ would rather be on their own, enjoying the peace and quiet without constantly interruptions.

ENTJ

The ENTJs happy place is being able to revel in their accomplishments and share this with someone they love. Feeling loyalty from those closest to them and being able to connect with them on a deeper level. ENTJs are happiest when they can dominate in an intellectual manner, and feel most rewarded by people who appreciate this about them. Loyalty means the most to them, and so they want to share in these accomplishments with someone who sees them for who they are.

INTP

The INTPs happy place is often spend with someone who understands and accepts them entirely. While INTPs aren’t seen as social people, they do crave feeling understood by someone they love. Having this companion who can share the silence and enjoy reading or problem solving together, is truly a happy place for the INTP. They become overwhelmed by being around constant noise and people, and need time to themselves to recharge without feeling guilty.

ENTP

The ENTPs happy place is often filled with imagination and new ideas. They like being able to experience new things and don’t like being stuck in one stagnant place. They feel happiest when they have plenty of mental stimulation and also when they can share in these adventures with someone they care for. ENTPs want to be able to share things with someone who understands and appreciates who they are who does not hold them back. Their happy place is often with this special person, simply enjoying whatever comes their way.



ISTJ

The ISTJs happy place is often sitting in silence enjoying a book and something that engages them. They want to feel mentally stimulated, but they don’t want to be drained by the presence of others. This happy place might include someone they love, but only if that person knows how to let them enjoy the quiet without needing to fill it with pointless noise. The ISTJs happy place is also a place where they can revel in their accomplishments and feel a sense of appreciation from their loved ones

ESTJ

The ESTJs happy place is somewhere surrounded by their loved ones, feeling a sense of undying loyalty and appreciation from them. ESTJs want to be able to celebrate their accomplishments, and their greatest joy comes from feeling this from their loved ones as well. The ESTJs happy place is often somewhere celebrating, or even enjoying a vacation that they know they deserve with the people they love most.

ISFJ

The ISFJs happy place is often spent relaxing with their family and loved ones. Seeing everyone together as happy as possible, is what truly brings the ISFJ joy. They might not want to constantly be active in the conversation, but enjoy just sitting back and watching everyone enjoy themselves. They feel most at ease when they are around the people they love, especially when they see those people happy and cared for without a worry in the world.

ESFJ

The ESFJs happy place is often spent somewhere special with someone who they love deeply. Having all of their favorite people around them just enjoying every second, is pure bliss for the ESFJ. Seeing their loved ones happy and being able to share in that happiness is the absolute best thing for them. They often want to enjoy some sort of activity, like going on vacation somewhere relaxing and special to them. But the most important part is doing this with someone they love, and that is what makes it their happiest place.



ISTP

The ISTPs happy place is often somewhere in silence, where they can work on problem solving. They might enjoy working with their hands and focusing on something that keeps them stimulated. ISTPs hate constant noise and interruptions, so their happy place is free of this. Often filled with their favorite music, just working on fixing something or putting together something that keeps them engaged and entertained.

ESTP

The ESTPs happy place is often enjoying the present with someone they love, going on adventures with them. Their happy place often puts the ESTP as the center of attention, being able to interact with others and enjoy feelings loved. They need a place where they can feel engaged and stimulated, instead of feeling stagnant and trapped. Their happiest place is with their loved ones, feeling completely loved by them.

ISFP

The ISFPs happy place is often somewhere serene and relaxing, but also beautiful. Possibly enjoying nature with someone special, just living their lives soaking up their surroundings. Whether they are reading a book or listening to their favorite music, being able to share in the quiet with someone they love is the best experience. ISFPs love being around that one special person who understands and appreciates them for who they are.

ESFP

The happiest place for the ESFP is often spending time with their loved ones on some kind of adventure. If they can just soak up the present moment doing something exciting and fun with their favorite people, it is pure joy for the ESFP. They know how to make their lives joyful, and are happiest when they don’t have people trying to hold them back from this. Focusing on enjoying a vacation with their loved ones without any worries, is the happiest for the ESFPs.
 





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