Is there a cure for unhappy lives?

Lisa

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Interesting article...does our modern culture create unhappiness? Are there any answers to these problems now? Can we bring meaning back to people when they are busy being who they want to be and perhaps finding that to be meaningless to? From the article...

Why Are So Many Young People Unhappy?
Here are some unhappy statistics:

— In America between 1946 and 2006, the suicide rate quadrupled for males ages 15 to 24 and doubled for females the same age.

— In 1950, the suicide rate per 100,000 Americans was 11.4. In 2017, it was 14.

— According to Grant Duwe, director of research and evaluation at the Minnesota Department of Corrections, in the 1980s, there were 32 mass public shootings (which he defines as incidents in which four or more people are killed publicly with guns within 24 hours). In the 1990s, there were 42. In the first decade of this century, there were 28. In all the 1950s, when there were fewer controls on guns, there was one. Fifty years before that, in the 1900s, there were none.

— Reuters Health reported in 2019, “Suicidal thinking, severe depression and rates of self-injury among U.S. college students more than doubled over less than a decade, a nationwide study suggests.” The study co-author Jean Twenge, a psychology professor at San Diego State University, said, “It suggests that something is seriously wrong in the lives of young people.”

This data is not only applicable to Americans. As social commentator Kay Hymowitz wrote in City Journal in 2019: “Loneliness, public-health experts tell us, is killing as many people as obesity and smoking. … Germans are lonely, the bon vivant French are lonely, and even the Scandinavians — the happiest people in the world, according to the UN’s World Happiness Report — are lonely, too. British prime minister Theresa May recently appointed a ‘Minister of Loneliness.’ … consider Japan, a country now in the throes of an epidemic of kodokushi, roughly translated as ‘lonely deaths.’ Local Japanese papers regularly publish stories about kinless elderly whose deaths go unnoticed until the telltale smell of maggot-eaten flesh alerts neighbors.”

Though people have more money, better health care, better health, better housing and more education, and live longer than at any time in history, they — especially young people — are unhappier than at any time since data collection began.

Why has this happened?

There are any number of reasons. Increased use of illicit drugs and prescription drug abuse, and less human interaction because of constant cellphone use are two widely offered, valid explanations. Less valid explanations include competition, grades anxiety, capitalism and income inequality. And then there are young people’s fears that because of global warming, they have a bleak, and perhaps no, future.

But the biggest reason may be the almost-complete loss of values and meaning over the last half-century.

Let’s begin with values.

America — and much of the rest of the West, but I will confine my discussion to America — was founded on two sets of values: Judeo-Christian and American. This combination created the freest, most opportunity-giving, most affluent country in world history. This is not chauvinism. It is fact. And it was regarded as such throughout the world. That is why France gave America — and only America — the Statue of Liberty. That’s why people from every country on Earth so wanted to immigrate to America — and still do.

Chief among American values was keeping government as small as possible. This enabled nongovernmental institutions — Kiwanis International, Rotary International and Lions Clubs International; book clubs; the Boy Scouts and Girl Scouts; bowling leagues; music societies; and, of course, churches — to provide Americans with friends and to provide the neediest Americans with help. But as government has gotten ever larger, many of these nongovernmental groups have dwindled in number or simply disappeared.

Another set of values is what is referred to as “middle-class” or “bourgeois” values. These include getting married before one has a child; making a family; getting a job so as to be self-sustaining and sustain one’s family; self-discipline; delayed gratification; and patriotism.

All of these have been under attack by America’s elites, with the following results:

One in 5 young Americans has no contact with his or her father (not including fathers who have died).

In 2011, 72% of black children were born to unmarried mothers. In 1965, it was 24%. In 2012, 29% of white children were born to unmarried women. In 1965, it was 3.1%.

The majority of births to millennials are to unmarried women. Yet, according to a 2018 Cigna study, single parents are generally the loneliest Americans.

Marriage and family are the single greatest sources of happiness for most people. Yet, the percentage of American adults who have never been married is at a historic high. More Americans than ever will not get married, or they will marry so late they will not have children. In 1960, 9% of blacks ages 25 and older had never been married. In 2012, it was nearly 40%.

And I haven’t even mentioned the biggest problem: the loss of meaning in young people’s lives.
 

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I'm sure there are many factors. But this generation was heavily medicated starting at a young age with ADHD drugs. Are the long-term side effects worse than we thought? And are these kids automatically shifted to anti-depressent drugs when they get older? Sounds like these drugs affect their development and their ability to cope with life.
 

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I'm sure there are many factors. But this generation was heavily medicated starting at a young age with ADHD drugs. Are the long-term side effects worse than we thought? And are these kids automatically shifted to anti-depressent drugs when they get older? Sounds like these drugs affect their development and their ability to cope with life.
I think you bring up a good point about the adhd drugs. My bil had his son on adhd drugs which I don’t really think he needed and it didn’t seem to do anything but make him weird. Then they took him off of it and he seemed alright to me. Idk about then going to the anti depressants and I don’t know if he did, but it seems that that was the leading therapy and maybe still is. I was concerned when I started reading about how anti depressants were hard to get off of years after people like my sister had been taking them for years on end. I don’t think by taking them you are actually dealing with anything, just covering over it with a drug that suppresses your inner angst..yet how does one solve their problems?

I wonder if having our kids watching cartoons growing up is the real culprit? In those cartoons, say like Arthur..the kids get along and when they don’t they make up..which we know in real life, that doesn’t always happen. In Disney cartoons, there is drama but its always happily ever after and I wonder if this is the common denominator for unhappiness? Kids have grown up with a steady stream of fantasy and maybe can’t understand how reality isn’t like that? And they don’t know how to get that for themselves? I find myself waiting for the time when everything is ok and life is good and I no longer have any problems...and I wonder if I had grown up in a different time period that maybe I would have been taught that life is hard and things don’t always work out, would I perhaps have a better understanding of reality..is that what people that came before us had?
 

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...does our modern culture create unhappiness? Are there any answers to these problems now?..
The only proper answer is for people to become Christians, because without it they're like wagons without springs, jolted by every pebble on the road:eek:
 

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The only proper answer is for people to become Muslims, because without it they're like wagons without springs, jolted by every pebble on the road :eek:
 

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The only proper answer is for people to become Muslims, because without it they're like wagons without springs, jolted by every pebble on the road :eek:
Christians look BEYOND the material world and therefore don't get bogged down it it and don't take it seriously.. :D

"We fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen, since what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal" (2 Cor 4:18 )

"My Christian faith has been such a backbone through so many difficult times. For me Christianity is about being strengthened"- Bear Grylls

 

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The only proper answer is for people to become Muslims, because without it they're like wagons without springs, jolted by every pebble on the road :eek:

You are so arrogant to believe you know "the path" and Gods true word. Seriously, we are all constantly learning.

To say you know 100% the way of god and the meaning of life is like climbing halfway up a ladder and then bragging that you climbed to the top. Check yourself man! I say this with all due respect.
 

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That has nothing to do with Islam. ME women wore those things long before Islam came into the picture. Nice try though. Grasping at straws won't save you from your man-god worshipping ways ;)
Doesn’t it have something to do with islam? I would venture to say that the woman wearing the cloth prisons..I mean happy tents.. are muslims.
 

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You are so arrogant to believe you know "the path" and Gods true word. Seriously, we are all constantly learning.

To say you know 100% the way of god and the meaning of life is like climbing halfway up a ladder and then bragging that you climbed to the top. Check yourself man! I say this with all due respect.
Now why don't you quote Tidal and let him know as well since he said it first?
 

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The only proper answer is for people to become Christians, because without it they're like wagons without springs, jolted by every pebble on the road:eek:
He posted this before me. Awaiting your response :)
 

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I think that a lot of unhappiness comes from all the lying and gaslighting going on in the world.

Like why be successful if people will just lie and call you shit? Why try to be popular when someone will just lie and call you shit? It's like the only answer is to become a hermit, and just live for yourself.

I used to think optimistically about the world too. Until I realized most of the population didn't mature past high school.
 

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I think that a lot of unhappiness comes from all the lying and gaslighting going on in the world.

Like why be successful if people will just lie and call you shit? Why try to be popular when someone will just lie and call you shit? It's like the only answer is to become a hermit, and just live for yourself.

I used to think optimistically about the world too. Until I realized most of the population didn't mature past high school.
Can you be happy if you are successful anyway? Idk about being popular...that has its own problems where you stop being able to be you but have to be something other people think you should be to be popular, its really its own prison isn’t it? Better to accept yourself the way you are and go from there.
 

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Can you be happy if you are successful anyway? Idk about being popular...that has its own problems where you stop being able to be you but have to be something other people think you should be to be popular, its really its own prison isn’t it? Better to accept yourself the way you are and go from there.
Good question.

I think that social culture has created its own definition of success. According to the dictionary, being successful just means accomplishing a goal. So the answer is, success is supposed to make you happy. But clearly this isn't the case. I don't think it's being negative to state the truth here either. A lot of people aren't just unhappy, they are downright miserable.

No cap either. I work in the public eye, I can taste all the misery. It tastes like shit BTW. Now given my previous paragraph, a lot of the misery shouldn't exist. Because everyone is accomplishing some goal. So maybe the real question should be, why aren't personal goals enough for most people?

My advice is simple. Dream big and don't let the vampires drain your God-given potential to be something great.
 
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