Goals/time Management/optimal Living

[DesertRose]

@polymoog here is my 2 cents on this:
Manifesting desires is in the realm of the unseen ones and is always at a cost.
For centuries paganites have played this game at a cost of misguidance and a lack of true spirituality.
Yet even then they can not get all their results because they are not in control of All results.
Our life should not be desire driven but purpose driven.

Chasing desires in excess is slavery:
“Desire makes slaves out of kings, while patience makes kings out of slaves.”

― Imam Al-Ghazali
Look around you........
Everything around us has a purpose and it is lamentable that people are too busy chasing desires (solely) instead of chasing their purpose. (will leave some thoughts and videos at islamic vids)
Chasing desires is like being involved in constant play and amusement. Moreover some people no longer differentiate between lawful desires and unlawful desires which has foisted immorality and corruption in the world.
So I will wrap up this discussion for now. Welcome to this thread.


@polymoog

ill check out the tom video. im not sure how much more younger and handsome i can get, though...

 

[DesertRose]

Oh, I read another book by Covey, forever ago, that said not to hang out in bed after waking up. Once you're awake, just get up and start doing stuff.

What about reading in bed with a cuppa tea or coffee and watching the rain fall?
Thanks for your contribution and welcome to this thread!

 

[Bent8484]

What about reading in bed with a cuppa tea or coffee and watching the rain fall?
Thanks for your contribution and welcome to this thread!

I have a dedicated reading space for that...sitting, though, not laying down. Otherwise I just pass out again.

 

[morita]

Getting rid of toxic people will definitely improve your quality of life in no time and will leave you headspace to focus on more important things than drama, gossip and negativity.

 

[Tidal]

Getting rid of toxic people will definitely improve your quality of life in no time.

Yup, I cross the street to avoid some people..
“Associate yourself with men of good quality, if you esteem your own reputation; for ‘tis better to be alone than in bad company”- George Washington
"If you hang around with losers, you become a loser"- Donald Trump
"He who walks with the wise grows wise, but a companion of fools suffers harm" (Bible: Proverbs 13:20)

 

[Kung Fu]

Staying active. Even if it's just walking. Find ways where you can be more active and your quality of life will skyrocket. For example, you live in a condo or apartment and you're on the 7th floor. Use the stairs going both up and down.

 

[DesertRose]

Getting rid of toxic people will definitely improve your quality of life in no time and will leave you more headspace to focus on more important things than drama, gossip and negativity.

Absolutely agree, one must manage their environment offline and online .

Yup, I cross the street to avoid some people

Yup that is a strategy another one is keeping it at hi and bye.

Staying active. Even if it's just walking. Find ways where you can be more active and your quality of life will skyrocket. For example, you live in a condo or apartment and you're on the 7th floor. Use the stairs going both up and down.

Agreed! it was a difficult habit to start but now the daily walk is enjoyable!

The Joy of Movement by Kelly McGonigal, Ph.D. (#400)

Thanks for sharing!

 

[DesertRose]

Towards the end of the day you are aware if you appeared that day with the best version of yourself which is +1 stepping forward into growth or -1 which is negative steps.
Making that choice moment to moment towards growth is living with excellence.
+1 or -1 (which way are you headed?!

 

[Orwell's mentor]

It's never disappointing to listen to the (now late) Sir Ken Robinson. Always an inspiration and one to challenge one's perspective of the world. Such a poignant statement when he says, "Nobody has ever lived your life, and nobody else ever will. You're a unique moment in the whole of human history". So true!

 

[DesertRose]

The BUTTERFLY Effect - Will Change your LIFE
caption under video:
The sensitive dependency on initial conditions in which a small change at one place can result in large differences in a later state.

 

[Maes17]

The BUTTERFLY Effect - Will Change your LIFE
caption under video:
The sensitive dependency on initial conditions in which a small change at one place can result in large differences in a later state.

Gonna have to give this a watch.


So I’m off for two weeks. Using this as a time for a much needed relax from working so much.

Finally able to put together a home gym, enjoy my youngsters.

Sounds kinda stupid but the wife and I dressed up last night and had a little candle lit dinner. We were supposed to go out back in march but covid hit. And given our busy work schedules, we finally decided to just have a night in.

But this thread made me appreciate time and goals as I have a chance to reflect with time off

 

[DesertRose]

PNTV: Chasing Excellence by Ben Bergeron (#376)

10 Big Ideas to Optimize Your

Habits(via Mastery Series Module V: Algorithms-Part 1:The Big Picture)

 

[DesertRose]

Marginal Gains - Create Lasting Habits

 

[DesertRose]

Garlic helps fix the gut.
FIX YOUR GUT, IT'S POISONING YOU – Brain Maker by Dr. David Perlmutter

 

[Identify]

Thank you DesertRose for this collection of videos! Knowledge is power! Will make time to watch most of your links.

I would just like to add (afther reading you are sceptical about the subject) you could benefit from investigating 'the law of attraction/manifestation'. Imo it is an alternative explanation for mental comitment and habit formation. When you believe something will manifest, you will do anything in your power to make it happen. All of your subcounsious actions will be directed towards that objective. This is quite similar to habit formation where you reprogram your subcounsious mind trough repetition.

I would also like to suggest the book '177 mental toughness secrets of the world class' by Steve Siebold. It is a nice general recap of a lot of the above videos. This way I dont clog up your thread without a contribution

Thanks again!

 

[DesertRose]

All of your subcounsious actions will be directed towards that objective. This is quite similar to habit formation where you reprogram your subcounsious mind trough repetition.

You are welcome identify and welcome aboard!
I agree directing our subconscious towards an objective is helpful and many times is successful. However, as a believer I am thoroughly aware that "men/women propose and God disposes".
We can try and we succeed often but not always, because the end result ultimately is with the Creator.
This is a good thing otherwise we would never win against the elite.
I have certainty, that they have strong objectives but they will not be successful in their outcomes. God willing.

you could benefit from investigating 'the law of attraction/manifestation'.

I perform prudent action and then trust In the Creator. (Trust in God, but tie up your camel)

 

[Tidal]

Topic title- Goals/time Management/optimal Living

I'm sure we all agree that the ONLY goal in our lives is to be happy.
So if striving to make money so that we can have a nice house, nice car, nice family and a healthy bank account etc is what floats our boat, that's fine.
But lets not forget we don't have to do that stuff to be happy.
Personally I've always preferred the simple life because i never cared much about having money and possessions, and i never married because i never wanted to be a family man, and as a result I'm perfectly happy..

PS- My late father was a workaholic- literally- and sent himself half-nutty with overwork, he said to my mam "That shoe factories my life" and used to drink wine in the evenings to relieve his stresses, and he died of liver cancer in his early sixties.
Incidentally, I didn't have a job when I left school aged 16 and my old man used to hammer on my bedroom door at the crack of dawn yelling "Get out of bed and look for a job you idle bleeder, they're crying out for people at the glue factory", but I thought "Oh stick it" and turned over and went back to sleep..

This guy rightly liked the simple life-

 

[Identify]

I'm sure we all agree that the ONLY goal in our lives is to be happy.

I don't agree. Beying happy is not the goal, its a byproduct of the path leading to the goal. You are not supposed to be happy all the time. Without the occational struggle you would not even know the difference between being happy and unhappy.
The way I understand your attitude towards life, you seek pleasure as much as possible. This can be satisfying in the short run but it will leave you unforfilled on the long run. You have a purspose in life (like desertrose said above). If you don't accomplish this purpose your life will not it be lived fully, and you will be the one left with regrets on your death bed.

 

[Tidal]

I don't agree. Beying happy is not the goal, its a byproduct of the path leading to the goal. You are not supposed to be happy all the time. Without the occational struggle you would not even know the difference between being happy and unhappy.
The way I understand your attitude towards life, you seek pleasure as much as possible. This can be satisfying in the short run but it will leave you unforfilled on the long run. You have a purspose in life (like desertrose said above). If you don't accomplish this purpose your life will not it be lived fully, and you will be the one left with regrets on your death bed.

I'm a Christian and we take knocks like everybody else, but we know how to roll with the punches on lifes road..
The key is not to take our lives on this earth seriously, a saying i like is- "A person without a sense of humour is like a wagon without springs, jolted by every pebble on the road".

Christians know that human life is just a temporary thing, and that we should stay focussed on the life to come-
Paul said- "We look at the things which are not seen; for the things which are seen are temporary, but the things which are not seen are eternal" (2 Cor 4:18)

Jesus spelt out the purpose of human life-
"The work God requires is to believe in the one he has sent" (John 6:28 )

But at the same time God gave us certain gifts to make the world a better place-
Paul said- "We have different gifts..preaching, serving, teaching, encouraging, giving, leading, mercy, do it cheerfully" (Romans 12:6-8)

So like I said before, we should all do whatever floats our boat, but at the same time we need to know how to relax and recharge our spiritual batteries..

 

[Cintra]

I'm sure we all agree that the ONLY goal in our lives is to be happy.
So if striving to make money so that we can have a nice house, nice car, nice family and a healthy bank account etc is what floats our boat, that's fine.
But lets not forget we don't have to do that stuff to be happy.
Personally I've always preferred the simple life because i never cared much about having money and possessions, and i never married because i never wanted to be a family man, and as a result I'm perfectly happy..

PS- My late father was a workaholic- literally- and sent himself half-nutty with overwork, he said to my mam "That shoe factories my life" and used to drink wine in the evenings to relieve his stresses, and he died of liver cancer in his early sixties.
Incidentally, I didn't have a job when I left school aged 16 and my old man used to hammer on my bedroom door at the crack of dawn yelling "Get out of bed and look for a job you idle bleeder, they're crying out for people at the glue factory", but I thought "Oh stick it" and turned over and went back to sleep..

This guy rightly liked the simple life-

I agree.
Also, nice picture.