It's a two way street. The offender needs to show remorse and try to make amends. And the offended needs to try to accept that it was a mistake or something like that.Forgiving is super hard even though people say it's necessary in order to move on. How did you learn to do it?
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Yes and no. If the offender never shows remorse, forgiveness is still necessary to set yourself free. Yet, for reconciliation, the offender should show a real change of heart.It's a two way street. The offender needs to show remorse and try to make amends. And the offended needs to try to accept that it was a mistake or something like that.
Not sure how you can forgive a MN as they are least likely to show remorse and make amends.Yes and no. If the offender never shows remorse, forgiveness is still necessary to set yourself free. Yet, for reconciliation, the offender should show a real change of heart.
Example: there's a malignant narcissist I've known since I was 19. Have had an off-on relationship with him until I turned 40 and decided to cut off all toxic people. I forgave him, but he has no access. Plus, have seen him take a dump (emotionally and spiritually speaking) on mutual friends and have told them they shouldn't tolerate it but some of them do. Others have cut him off, too. One has her husband protect her from him. I'm having to forgive him again bc he tried to weasel his way back into my life recently. Anyway, forgiveness doesn't equal reconciliation. Trust has to be earned. There are some people you shouldn't trust at all. But to forgive is the only way you can set yourself free.
"From a distance" to quote a Bette Midler song from the 80s. I have and will forgive him again, but will maintain my no contact stance and file a restraining order if need be.Not sure how you can forgive a MN as they are least likely to show remorse and make amends.
Dammit, I have zero chance of guessing that."From a distance" to quote a Bette Midler song from the 80s.
Yes toxic people will always try to find their way back into your life. All you can do is severe boundaries, ignore them until they finally get it. I find the best way is to not engage and protect yourself from their poisonous energy. These people are called "toxic" for a reason.I'm having to forgive him again bc he tried to weasel his way back into my life recently.
I feel that way too. It's hard to let people go sometimes but I've come to realize some people will never appreciate me for who I am, they only appreciate what I can do for them. That's a tough lesson but the world is like that. All you can do is move on.Anyway, forgiveness doesn't equal reconciliation.
Well what worked for me is I stopped holding grudges. I have one major beef and that is against my neighbor for sparking a physical confrontation. But I also knowledge she lives poverty and resorts to multiple men/drugs to scrape her by.Forgiving is super hard even though people say it's necessary in order to move on. How did you learn to do it?
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If they're not sorry they're not to be trustedIt is hard to forgive people who aren’t sorry...too bad this isn’t in the religious section.
Can you really forgive people who aren’t sorry?
So, then can you really forgive them?If they're not sorry they're not to be trusted
I personally wouldn't, but that's just me.So, then can you really forgive them?