I can't imagine what kind of church background you might have had that makes you imagine that most Christians are promoting a kind of Christianity that does not begin with true repentance. I have watched this conversation roll on and on.
As far as I can see, and derive from my own experience and that of others, the following characteristics are true of the experience of genuine Born Again believers.
This he knows because the Spirit of God is within a genuine born again believer.
Yes the Spirit of God obeys the Commandments of God.
And that's how we know if someone is genuine or not... do they obey the Commandments of God ?
No ? Gotcha !