mercure_in_retrograde
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Do you think that confidence is innate or do you think that's something that people develop over time?
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I think it’s developed. I also think it depends how mentally strong you are. How you handle pressure, not making impulsive reactions based on emotion, understanding the situation etc. To me, that’s how confidence is made.Do you think that confidence is innate or do you think that's something that people develop over time? Has anyone ever had confidence or self-esteem issues and if so, how were you able to overcome it?
Sorry to hear that man. Glad you're doing better.My dad used to verbally bully me all through my childhood, I think it's because he blamed me for making him and my mam have a shotgun wedding; he'd probably wanted me to be aborted.
Also, he liked to think he was the brains of the family, so when I showed signs of being a bright kid he redoubled his verbal bullying to try to take the wind out of my sails and make me feel worthless.
As a result I grew up timid and lacking self-confidence, but the turning point came in my early teens when I realised he was just a lousy father who was full of krap, and from that moment my confidence began healing itself.
Also in my teens I became more and more attracted to Christianity, and to cut a long story short, I became the strongest person I know..
It's as if by 'logging onto' Jesus, his and God's awesome power begins downloading into us-
"Our gospel came to you not simply with words but also with power"- (1 Thess 1:5)
most need to develop it, but a handful already have it.Do you think that confidence is innate or do you think that's something that people develop over time? Has anyone ever had confidence or self-esteem issues and if so, how were you able to overcome it?
There’s a point in life where you need to stop seeking validation from others.most need to develop it, but a handful already have it.
to make a long post short, find out what the issue is behind your confidence failure and squash it. most often, it is a "what will so-and-so think of me if i do xyz?" you can translate this to, "their opinion is far greater than my own." you will need to answer whether that is true or not for yourself.
Idk. Some people are easily manipulated.Seems difficult to be naturally confident in the modern age of gaslighting. All I can say is, don't worry about what people think of you.
how do you define gaslighting?Seems difficult to be naturally confident in the modern age of gaslighting. All I can say is, don't worry about what people think of you.
An intent to make a person doubt themselves. Usually involving lying about a problem the gaslighter created.how do you define gaslighting?
Mirror work and affirmations help.Do you think that confidence is innate or do you think that's something that people develop over time? Has anyone ever had confidence or self-esteem issues and if so, how were you able to overcome it?
Incidentally one neat little trick I learnt years ago is to NEVER look glum in the mirror, or else the negative vibes will reflect back at you.I think it comes down to the way you talk to yourself. If you're constantly thinking negative thoughts about yourself, you start manifesting them in your everyday life. The opposite is also true. You have to be aware of your inner dialogue.
I encourage kids to find their passion. If materialistic is what drives them to be better then aim for it.Topic title- developing confidence/self-esteem
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Sadly, kids have always had it drummed into them by parents, teachers and society in general that they must "make something of themselves in life" and "be a success" and "get on in the world" blah blah, (we've all been through it) so no wonder a lot of them grow up worrying about whether they're "making the grade".
Fortunately I was always a tough little sonofagun and when I got into my teens I decided to reject all that materialistic claptrap and have been happy ever since..
Of course, many people are hesitant about rejecting it, so my advice to them is STOP BEING MISTER NICE GUYS AND GALS!
Look around at the world and realise what a failed incompetent mess it is, so don't for an instant worry about "fitting in" to it..
At one extreme, monks shut themselves in monasteries well away from the mess, but we don't have to go to that extreme, instead we can simply refuse to dance to the world's tune and treat the world as a joke which shouldn't be taken seriously..
Jesus said:- "The world wants you to dance to its tune" (Matt 11:16/17)
So just sit out the dance..