This is because their job is selling that fantasy. That's something that separates and idol from an artist, actor, ect. An idol has to be a jack of all trades and be available because their fans. I definitely agree this is so incredibly harmful and really counterproductive but if they were to pretty much come out and say "It's my life I'm living it" they would lose their fanbase. It's sad. It sucks. It's literally insane. But that's just how it is. Look at Chen and Heechul actually apologizing for falling in love. It's so disgusting. I wish I could be the fan they said that to because I would give them a lecture on all this lol. It's a vicious cycle because the idols are the ones who push this fantasy then try to tell those same fans to give them their privacy and don't follow them ect. Well that ends up turning out the same way it would if a boyfriend told his girlfriend to leave him alone. You push this fantasy on your fans and then get mad when they believe it. You can't have it both ways. I blame the idol more than the fans. Maybe the entire industry for even making this a thing.
Oh yes, the "I wanted to kill myself before BTS", "BTS literally saved my life". It upset me to no end because it's trivializing mental health. They're the same kind of people who say they're bipolar because they'll be happy and then get mad when someone does something that would make anybody mad. Or that they're depressed because their dog died. Like, no, that makes you human, you donut hole. I just shake that off as they're children. They don't understand what these conditions are so they go online and see the symptoms and then diagnose themselves with an issue where there isn't one. It's incredibly frustrating but what are you gonna do.
Lastly, I really and I mean REALLY wish I could say judging someone on their appearance is something people grow out of but it's not. That is, sadly, something we will have to deal with for the rest of our lives and all the lives after it. Now, there are some people like me and
@ShiningCarat14 who, like she said before, see people's personalities as a defining factor. This guy could be the most gorgeous thing I've seen in my life, my ultimate ideal type but if he's a dick and treats me likes shit he actually becomes physically ugly to me. Likewise, a guy could be not so good looking but have the heart of Jesus himself and treats me like a queen and I would choose him in a heartbeat. I really love what
@ShiningCarat14 said about looks being someone's only personality trait. It is sooo freaking true it's almost not funny (almost cos that was hilarious. im still laughing lol). I don't know too many people who put up with terrible people simply because they look good. Even in domestic violence situations it's rarely (if ever) about the way the person looks. It's more how the victim feels about themselves and the twisted version of love that they're accepting. I'm in this situation as we speak and, trust, it has absolutely nothing to do with his looks. On the other hand, if someone you find repulsive were to walk up to you and ask you on a date, would you accept and give him a chance until he proves his personality is ugly? Who knows? I don't. But probably not lol.