Your immaturity shows again. There is a difference between “effeminate” and “feminine”.Exactly!
You are perfectly right.
What the media is pushing as a stereotype.
By the way, I am from Eastern Europe and we also have been taught or grown up being thought the same things like you’ve mentioned.
I equally never encountered the effeminate Asian guy. Half of the musicians are Asians and they look like the normal average man, most of the guys in the tech are Asians, also normal looking.
It’s only the entertainment (Kpop/kdramas) who are pushing the no gender effeminate look because it effects firstly the cosmetic industry (and...the...interest of ....you know who...)
https://medium.com/amp/p/21501bd8b0cf
Excerpt:
Here’s a novel stat: South Korea accounts for about 20% of the world market for men’s cosmetics. This means annual salesof more than $1 billion courtesy of a mere 25 million men, and this figure will inflate by 50% over the next five years. On a per capita level, Korean men have everyone beat. Why? Because “appearance is power”and “youth equals ability.”
We’re not just talking skin lotions or aftershave here. Korean urbanites are also smitten withBB Cream, brow pencils and guyliner. Girlfriends and spouses not only shop cosmetics for their male partners in Seoul, but also casually applylipstick to their faces in public without anyone sharpening the proverbial pitchforks.
That said, shouldn’t gender-bending be a complete no-no in the deeply Confucian culture of Korea? Also, befitting its two years of mandatory military service for young men, shouldn’t Korea’s benchmark for masculine beauty be the hardy, rugged type? Like Clark Gable? Even Bruce Lee? While that was once true, South Koreans now prize the puckish, Peter Pan look over Gerard Butler-esque alpha male chic.
——————
Sidenote: germans who are pale, are obsessed with fake tanning and sunbath to darken their skin. They would often laugh at someone with a light skin.
For someone who works in the entertainment industry, you really don’t seem to know very much. You do pick the most unfortunate examples to illustrate your points. Clark Gable? Yes, he was the whose father allegedly bullied him for being feminine. The one who, despite being a homophobe, was alleged to have had homosexual encounters. Of course, I don’t know if any of that is true. However, probably not the best example of a rugged male.
Do you know how deeply offensive it is to use terms like “gender-bending”? Do you use terms like that in real life or are you a secret homophobe, who gains courage from behind her keyboard?