Tbh, im a firm believer you are born this way, and your sexuality is a test from god, you might commit the sin or restrict yourself from it and in the future you will be granted by god.It's not supposed to be general knowledge, I know about it because I used to be LGBT.
I feel sorry for him too, whatever he does in the present time by choice, wasn't necessarily started by choice. A lot of addicts of extreme BDSM (like pigs usually are) became addicts after being sexually abused. For them TO CHOSE this severe type of sexual deviance (including even r*pe play) and to make themselves like it, is their way of resolving mental conflict.
Some people say that god wouldnt give us a default since birth, but how come then people are born blind or deaf or with trisomy? I believe all of this is a test that god give us, each of us have one, we have to fight against it.
I remember seeing a interview with an homosexu@l girl from a very conservative country. I think she was from that one who banned bts movie. She said that before she even knew what the word lesbian mean she had a crush on a girl at 5 year old.
But natural doesnt equal good ofc
Im glad you went through it! And fight you desires to chose the good path
Edit: this is about lgbt not bdsm