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Lurker
Lurker
Yeah. A man helps his friends. :)
polymoog
polymoog
ive been in that kind of situation when ive been consoling a woman with no intentions in my mind and things simply unraveled. its like getting swept away with the tide.
polymoog
polymoog
i am not saying his action was right, by the way. guys naturally want to comfort women. unless youve been in that spot before, you dont know that it could end up like that.
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Thank you @polymoog it helps to hear a male perspective. We have SUCH an emotional and spiritual connection that it completely blindsided me.
Lisa
Lisa
It’s like a scene out of When Harry met Sally.
polymoog
polymoog
@~JC~ talk to him. see what he says. you should be able to read it on his face whether he is telling the truth or not, and his response must match what i wrote (more or less). otherwise, he is a disloyal, cheating S.O.B.
2cool4thisplanet
2cool4thisplanet
Is he your boyfriend? If not, idk...if he made no commitment to you I'm sorry to say, these things can happen minus the explicit commitment...
Doesn't make it right, and I'm sorry this happened to you...
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CAC
CAC
Run. Sorry to hear that.
~JC~
~JC~
@2cool4thisplanet yeah we’ve been friends for years but didn’t get close until he broke up with his ex of 8 years. But we just completely fell in love in the last couple of months (of the 5 we’ve been dating). I really think it’s like polymoog said, he got swept up in the emotions of his friend and it just happened. It’s not in his personality to just go cheat, this was a total shocker
2cool4thisplanet
2cool4thisplanet
Oh so he IS the BF!? Yikes! Swept up in emotions and something else I would say...
Really stinks, I'm sorry. Ball is in your court, now. Forgive and move on, or just end things. Trust is going to be a hurdle to overcome, here. Physical distance can create barriers to relationships too..good luck!
ETA:
Glad you two are ok now.
Let love heal.
~JC~
~JC~
I ate some magic mushrooms last night and the answers became clear. The error in judgement cant define the powerful connection we have. We talked and have both healed immensely through the understanding I only could have gained by removing ego and seeing the relationship for what it is, at its core. All is well now :)
CAC
CAC
Cool, but coming from a man who has cheated, lied, and been forgiven....I think you’re making a mistake. You’ve only dated him for 5 months, and he already cheated. He doesn’t hold himself accountable. It will happen again because he got away with it so easily. Understand that he would not take you back for a second if you went and slept with your guy friend to “console him”. Again, I’m sorry.
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Put it this way, it’s WORTH a shot :)
2cool4thisplanet
2cool4thisplanet
Gold?
Diamonds?
:D
~JC~
Maes17
Maes17
He may do it again down the line. Don’t let yourself down JC. You seem like a cool lady who is in a puppy love stage to comprehend what he did. You’re call at the end though. Just sayin, if I knew all this myself. I’d end it. I really don’t put up with anything like that
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