Is Eloping A Sin?

Thunderian

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My wife and I always said that we should have just eloped. As it was, we had a very short engagement and a very small wedding, but it was by the skin of our teeth. Once you tell people you're getting married, everyone seems to think you're asking for advice, and you would not believe how bent out of shape people get when you don't follow their unsolicited guidance.

For instance:

- the pastor of the church we were attending (who was not performing the ceremony, and at that point was not even invited) sent us an email saying that we should invite more people from the church so we didn't hurt anyone's feelings
- my sister called me in tears saying that we were getting married too soon -- not because she was worried about us, but because she had concert tickets for the same weekend our wedding was scheduled
- my mother-in-law said she wasn't going to attend because she didn't think my father-in-law should be there
- my other sister got mad because we didn't invite one of HER friends
- my mother-in-law (again) objected to the seating arrangements, because she felt that one of the guests didn't deserve a place so close to the front
- my best friend got mad at me because he felt the wedding was too small, and it meant we were ashamed of our relationship
- my brother claimed, after the fact, that he was never invited, and that's why he didn't come​

Honestly, we never knew the people in our lives were so crazy until we told them we were going to get married. So unless there's a reason why it will cause massive problems if you run off and get married, I say, "Run! Be free!"

Our anniversary is a week away, and somehow we've managed to be married seven years by God's grace and our own efforts, and nothing to do with anyone else. I should say, though, that our wedding was lovely (outside on my dad's property overlooking the ocean as the sun set and with him performing the ceremony), and we had help from several selfless, wonderful people, including my cousin, my sister-in-law and my step-mom.

Also, had we eloped, we never would have gotten this great picture.

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Skywa1ker

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Thunderian said:
My wife and I always said that we should have just eloped. As it was, we had a very short engagement and a very small wedding, but it was by the skin of our teeth. Once you tell people you're getting married, everyone seems to think you're asking for advice, and you would not believe how bent out of shape people get when you don't follow their unsolicited guidance.

For instance:

- the pastor of the church we were attending (who was not performing the ceremony, and at that point was not even invited) sent us an email saying that we should invite more people from the church so we didn't hurt anyone's feelings
- my sister called me in tears saying that we were getting married too soon -- not because she was worried about us, but because she had concert tickets for the same weekend our wedding was scheduled
- my mother-in-law said she wasn't going to attend because she didn't think my father-in-law should be there
- my other sister got mad because we didn't invite one of HER friends
- my mother-in-law (again) objected to the seating arrangements, because she felt that one of the guests didn't deserve a place so close to the front
- my best friend got mad at me because he felt the wedding was too small, and it meant we were ashamed of our relationship
- my brother claimed, after the fact, that he was never invited, and that's why he didn't come​

Honestly, we never knew the people in our lives were so crazy until we told them we were going to get married. So unless there's a reason why it will cause massive problems if you run off and get married, I say, "Run! Be free!"

Our anniversary is a week away, and somehow we've managed to be married seven years by God's grace and our own efforts, and nothing to do with anyone else. I should say, though, that our wedding was lovely (outside on my dad's property overlooking the ocean as the sun set and with him performing the ceremony), and we had help from several selfless, wonderful people, including my cousin, my sister-in-law and my step-mom.

Also, had we eloped, we never would have gotten this great picture.

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That picture is adorable!
 
llleopard

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My brother in law got married this morning in Vegas ☺it would have been nice to be at their wedding, cos we love them, but there is a party planned for when they get home, and it's just that they wanted it totally quiet, personal, and no fuss at all. I think anyone who gets upset at people who choose to elope can just get their knickers out of the twist and think of the couple not their own feelings
 
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mecca said:
Why would it be?
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Well if you started a whole new life. That will easily lead to feelings of guilt. I'm not saying that's my plan, but it's something I've done before.
JoChris said:
If it will make you a bigamist, yes.
Otherwise why not? It certainly would be cheaper!!!!!
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I don't like bigamy. And it's just a different kind of risk with eloping. A lot of people plan out these huge weddings and it takes years for them to actually get married. Then of course, someone gets cold feet. I believe if you really want to marry someone, than you should be able to just elope and do it.
 
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Either way is fine ,I guess. I personally would like to do it in front of God and my family.
hope that helps
 
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Annonymous_Damsel said:
I remember I said that to this one guy on the first date...In my early twenties I've always wanted to elope.Smh...
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It strikes me as very romantic... something, exciting, daring, passionate... I would love to elope. I could treat it as a secret James Bond mission, it could be planned for months under a secret code name, performed at a secret location...

It would be way more exciting for me than a normal wedding...it just seems more adventurous. My dad was a meth dealer slash wedding DJ and I used to DJ weddings with him and if I had a normal wedding... it would really be for the woman and not for me. I don't like crowds of people, I don't like noise... a quiet, intimiate setting, a more daring, secretive, adventurous approach where I can feel like James Bond and have a sly grin as I plot my secret elope plans... that sounds way more fun and would actually be something I could enjoy. I think I would feel like a politician and I wouldn't enjoy it if I had a bunch of people and had to deal with the unsolicited advice Thunderian described. I feel like a politician around groups of people. I'm really a very quiet person and I like to be lost in my thoughts and have no idea how to make small talk and don't care about fitting in and conforming to what's popular, don't care about sports. "So... interesting weather." "hehe, yeah you know the weather in ***wherever-we-re***... yup... unpredictable... one day there's sun, one day it's cold, sometimes it rains..." "oh yeah, crazy weather out here" "yeah. man... crazy, wacky weather out here" ***exaggerated laugh*** "yeah, man... crazy weather out here" "right on! hell yeah, bro... cool weather talk..."

I can only imagine... if I was getting married, I probably wouldn't even be able to get away with discussing weatherological matters... people would probably want to discuss personal stuff... the other day someone asked me a personal question and I deliberately changed the topic to a very passionate discussion about food... stay the hell out of my business... let's talk about food... what is that you're eating?.... wow that looks very interested... soup, you say...

(I am in my early 20's,btw)
 
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I always wanted to elope, but as someone mentioned that may tend to upset family and friends. I had a small wedding. I invited a few family and friends because I never wanted the stress or the headache of a big dumb wedding. I saw no point in sharing the moment with, or feeding people I don't really know or deal with.

My dream wedding was to elope or to get married in all black on black. I wanted a beautiful black wedding gown. Groom in all black, full wedding court in all black. Weird right ? However that would have been my dream wedding.
 
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polymoog said:
well, i dont think many people would like having friends and family surrounding the couples bed, watching, as they "get married" on their wedding night.
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Lol true but I was just pointing out that from the perspective of the Bible marriage started at sex and not a church ordained wedding where partners trade rings (of Saturn). I think it was with Jacob or Isaac that the Bible says he took his (future) wife into the tent and they became husband and wife
 
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