I just had to highlight it because otherwise it would have been lost. I have seen a lot of things on this forum, but this was a special sort of offense. I never pictured feeling like I was in a time machine traveling back to 1900 in a place like this.
Like seriously, you have never seen pictures like this
Although, I will admit some women didn't want the right to vote because I have read their essays from this time period. They were rich, white women in most cases. They appeared comfortable, and they probably were in some cases. In others, they were likely abused in some way as children as well and found a persona that became a good way to cope with the pain. In reality, rich white women were also given threats and privileges for their behavior that were associated with varying degrees of abuse. So I take that into consideration when I read some of the things they have to say about how a woman should stay at home and all that.
Although, some of them were just wicked women who enjoyed the sense of authority that they had over other women based on being included in a different class that afforded luxuries. This actually brings up another point. Women around the year 1900 that were "staying at home" were usually rich, working mothers managing households that could include many staff members. They weren't raising children. The nanny they managed was raising children while they were picking out dishes for the next event.
If you weren't able to afford this at the time, then you were probably working in a job that people thought women would be better at like sewing. Have you really never seen the pictures of the women working at sewing factories or something like this?
The version of the stay at home mother you are describing never existed until technology helped create a middle class and a household that could be managed by one person during the day. The boomer generation is the only generation that lived the way you are describing. No one else throughout history ever lived this way.