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Hey bright friends of the forum!
I have had a longterm problem with a friend of mine I cannot come up with a solution for so thought I'd ask other bright minds to help me think of a solution.
It is so that I have a friend and have known this friend since around 2011. She has the diagnosis schizoaffective disorder and gets psychotic in episodes where she does the craziest things as in examples below and gets fetched by the police or military police. They then place her in the psych ward and pump her full of meds, she comes out all out of it, her psychiatrist continues the medication, her mother tells her it's poison because her mother seems to be strange aswell. her mother is on disability but won't say why so I suspect she might be a mental case aswell. She then stops taking the medication and the cycle continues of arrests and crazy behaviour.
Incident no 1
In 2013 This happened: https://www.hd.se/2013-11-13/kvinna-greps-efter-tumult The headline says "Turmoil on the street of Furutorp"
She has three children by a druguser and had just had a child social services were about to take into foster care like her other two children because of her behaviour so she ran to Norway with the newborn where a family took her in for a few weeks until they couldnt take her religious babble and her trying to convince other people about the "true name of the lord" so they kicked her out. She then wandered the streets of Norway and ended up in the lobby of a Hotel with the baby until she gave up and came home. But at home her ex boyfriend had prewarned social services of her return so they knocked on the door only hours upon arrival.
She refused to open and death threatened the social worker so they called the military police who then contacted the landlord who opened the door and she had by then barricated herself in the bedroom. The MP took an ax and chopped the door open so they could negotiate through the hole. She was on the bed, holding the baby, threatening to slash it's throat if they came in and took it.
Finally around ten PM she got tired and gave up and when she came out the MP threw a shock grenade that knocked her unconscious (according to her) and they grabbed the baby from her and drove her to the psych ward where she again was pumped up with drugs and released. She of course lost custody even of this child.
Incident no 2
She had climbed up the roof of her building and threw down a suitcase and keyes screaming she wanted to die. Her neighbour heard this and called the police who came and got her and drove her to the psych ward..again pumped her full of drugs and released her a month later.
Incident no 3
She just a week ago was arrested again for stealing a dog and the owner calling the police. She called me from psych laughing and saying "I thought it was so cute!" When I wasn't amused, she hung up. She doesn't seem to understand nor care that those things are illegal and that she will be arrested.
Incident no 4
She still had the custody of her one child back when this happened, visiting a mall holding and her screaming baby. A lady noticed the child was in agony and approached her saying she thought the child might be thirsty. She snapped and yelled "DON'T INTERFERE!!" But the lady wouldnt give up and followed her through the mall. She the snapped again, clocking her in the eye and throwing a hot dog on her coat. She was sentenced for assault and to pay a fine. Her parents paied the fine. She kept telling me "It's for the dry cleaners but it does NOT cost that much to have it dry cleaned!" She didn't at all understand it was a fine for having assaulted the lady who had just gotten cured from cancer aswell so it was a double burden on the aged lady.
Background:
She had a child back in 09 I think who was taken into foster care by social services because of her erractic behaviour. She then had a second child who was also taken into foster care and she cannot understand why. She told me once "I can be a good mother although I'm on amphetamine!" I could hardly believe my ears. She abuses drugs in periods so it's a case of mental illness with druguse and her ex boyfriend whom she stalks and refuses to let go, also uses. I've seen numerous texts from him asking her to "Please leave me alone" But it's like she doesnt listen. She goes to him and rings his bell, hammers the door and yells and listens through his mail slide although he even have other women in there. She does not respect anyones wishes but her own. She even heard him explaining to his new girlfriend that she was a mentally ill ex of his, and despite that, she still stalks him. He has stolen from her, conned her, beat her and psyched her down, it does not matter, she never leaves him alone.
Her parents keep sending her money she then shops at flea markets for, completely unneccesary things she doesnt even need and loads of toys for the children she's not even allowed to meet. Social services have put a ban on her even talking to her children over the phone because while she still had supervised visitation rights with them, she grabbed her daughter by the arm and ran off with her, luckily being stopped in the elevator. So she is not trusted to see them anymore, the children even have classified adresses so she cannot look them up and kidnap them. I really feel for social services, I do.
She sends threatening letters to social services about satan running them and asked me to come with her and smash the windows of their building -Yet she calls herself a christian and visits churches who one by one have forbid her to come back. She keeps violating those wishes. Jehovas Witnesses got scared of her and came with an elderly (like a priest) who explained they don't share the same believes and that she couldn't come back. The week after she was back at their meetings..eventually they gave up and let her come anyway but don't engage with her.
She often comes by my place although I've told her several times I don't wish to have any furthur contact and never open the door. She still stands outside ringing my bell, no respect at all for my wishes. It's been going on for 7 years now. I dont know if she cannot read social codes because she can tell people very hurtful things and doesnt understand that they hurt. or maybe she doesnt care because she never tells me such things. So I'm pretty sure there's a case of autism aswell in there or she's just completely spoiled and used to getting her way. I have heard her screaming to her mother on the phone, cursing her out because she didnt think it was a good idea she got a cat in the midst of the trial about the children. (Which I would say is damn good advice) She got the cat anyway and stressed it so much the cat was shaking when I came to see it. She eventually sold it (thank god) She also got a fishtank in which she put too many fishes (pirahnas) so they also were stressed out and some of them jumped out of the fishtank. She finally sold the surviving fish along with the tank.
Her parents on top of sending her money, have paied for several lawyers promising to get her the children back, which she of course never will, so her father who was supposed to retire last year, couldnt, but keeps working himself to the bone paying for all her escapades. Even back when she had a car, she would park it against the traffick and then send the ticket to her parents -Who paied it!
Other times she couldnt find the fan in the car so she drove really slow looking out the windows of the car to see where she was going. (The windows were fogged up) Other cars would honk their horns at her in irritation (completely understandable, I was so ashamed) and she would reply by flipping them the finger like a 3 year old child.
About the ex
He has physically fought her off, one time she came completely uncoherent to me saying something about his girlfriend having tried to stab her and he had ripped of her nail. She showed me the bloody stump. He has stolen from her multiple times, used her sexually and overall treated her horribly throughout the years but it has absolutely NO effect on her. She still comes back and bangs his door. I am now so desperate I have anononymously asked him how I get rid of her? Does he have any tips?
Today I called social services and asked them for advice aswell and although they couldnt reveal they knew her, we talked a bit "up in the air" presumably about it and they gave me the advice to only say Hi when I meet her out and then leave and to NEVER open the door for her or engage in any form of conversation. I will apply that advice on not talking to her outside anymore, even though I do it out of fear for what she might do.
I also moved 6 years ago and didn't tell her where, she questioned the tenant that moved in after me, who gave her my adress and so she started coming by here aswell.
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Now I'm wondering.. What the hell is going on here? For those religious of you out there, am I dealing with a demon, just mental illness, both or what? HOW do I get rid of her once and for all? She can call me time and time again despite me having blocked her and she keeps ringing my door despite Ive clearly said I want nothing more to do with her. She grabbed me outside just yesterday when on my bike. In the midst of cycling, she'd run to me and grab my arm so I had to stop. I cant get rid of her! She does the same to her ex, the drugusing boyfriend, he cant get rid of her either no matter what he does to her.
Forum people, help! What in the heck do I have to do to get rid of her?
(Sorry if its written unorderly, I have brainfog. )
I have had a longterm problem with a friend of mine I cannot come up with a solution for so thought I'd ask other bright minds to help me think of a solution.
It is so that I have a friend and have known this friend since around 2011. She has the diagnosis schizoaffective disorder and gets psychotic in episodes where she does the craziest things as in examples below and gets fetched by the police or military police. They then place her in the psych ward and pump her full of meds, she comes out all out of it, her psychiatrist continues the medication, her mother tells her it's poison because her mother seems to be strange aswell. her mother is on disability but won't say why so I suspect she might be a mental case aswell. She then stops taking the medication and the cycle continues of arrests and crazy behaviour.
Incident no 1
In 2013 This happened: https://www.hd.se/2013-11-13/kvinna-greps-efter-tumult The headline says "Turmoil on the street of Furutorp"
She has three children by a druguser and had just had a child social services were about to take into foster care like her other two children because of her behaviour so she ran to Norway with the newborn where a family took her in for a few weeks until they couldnt take her religious babble and her trying to convince other people about the "true name of the lord" so they kicked her out. She then wandered the streets of Norway and ended up in the lobby of a Hotel with the baby until she gave up and came home. But at home her ex boyfriend had prewarned social services of her return so they knocked on the door only hours upon arrival.
She refused to open and death threatened the social worker so they called the military police who then contacted the landlord who opened the door and she had by then barricated herself in the bedroom. The MP took an ax and chopped the door open so they could negotiate through the hole. She was on the bed, holding the baby, threatening to slash it's throat if they came in and took it.
Finally around ten PM she got tired and gave up and when she came out the MP threw a shock grenade that knocked her unconscious (according to her) and they grabbed the baby from her and drove her to the psych ward where she again was pumped up with drugs and released. She of course lost custody even of this child.
Incident no 2
She had climbed up the roof of her building and threw down a suitcase and keyes screaming she wanted to die. Her neighbour heard this and called the police who came and got her and drove her to the psych ward..again pumped her full of drugs and released her a month later.
Incident no 3
She just a week ago was arrested again for stealing a dog and the owner calling the police. She called me from psych laughing and saying "I thought it was so cute!" When I wasn't amused, she hung up. She doesn't seem to understand nor care that those things are illegal and that she will be arrested.
Incident no 4
She still had the custody of her one child back when this happened, visiting a mall holding and her screaming baby. A lady noticed the child was in agony and approached her saying she thought the child might be thirsty. She snapped and yelled "DON'T INTERFERE!!" But the lady wouldnt give up and followed her through the mall. She the snapped again, clocking her in the eye and throwing a hot dog on her coat. She was sentenced for assault and to pay a fine. Her parents paied the fine. She kept telling me "It's for the dry cleaners but it does NOT cost that much to have it dry cleaned!" She didn't at all understand it was a fine for having assaulted the lady who had just gotten cured from cancer aswell so it was a double burden on the aged lady.
Background:
She had a child back in 09 I think who was taken into foster care by social services because of her erractic behaviour. She then had a second child who was also taken into foster care and she cannot understand why. She told me once "I can be a good mother although I'm on amphetamine!" I could hardly believe my ears. She abuses drugs in periods so it's a case of mental illness with druguse and her ex boyfriend whom she stalks and refuses to let go, also uses. I've seen numerous texts from him asking her to "Please leave me alone" But it's like she doesnt listen. She goes to him and rings his bell, hammers the door and yells and listens through his mail slide although he even have other women in there. She does not respect anyones wishes but her own. She even heard him explaining to his new girlfriend that she was a mentally ill ex of his, and despite that, she still stalks him. He has stolen from her, conned her, beat her and psyched her down, it does not matter, she never leaves him alone.
Her parents keep sending her money she then shops at flea markets for, completely unneccesary things she doesnt even need and loads of toys for the children she's not even allowed to meet. Social services have put a ban on her even talking to her children over the phone because while she still had supervised visitation rights with them, she grabbed her daughter by the arm and ran off with her, luckily being stopped in the elevator. So she is not trusted to see them anymore, the children even have classified adresses so she cannot look them up and kidnap them. I really feel for social services, I do.
She sends threatening letters to social services about satan running them and asked me to come with her and smash the windows of their building -Yet she calls herself a christian and visits churches who one by one have forbid her to come back. She keeps violating those wishes. Jehovas Witnesses got scared of her and came with an elderly (like a priest) who explained they don't share the same believes and that she couldn't come back. The week after she was back at their meetings..eventually they gave up and let her come anyway but don't engage with her.
She often comes by my place although I've told her several times I don't wish to have any furthur contact and never open the door. She still stands outside ringing my bell, no respect at all for my wishes. It's been going on for 7 years now. I dont know if she cannot read social codes because she can tell people very hurtful things and doesnt understand that they hurt. or maybe she doesnt care because she never tells me such things. So I'm pretty sure there's a case of autism aswell in there or she's just completely spoiled and used to getting her way. I have heard her screaming to her mother on the phone, cursing her out because she didnt think it was a good idea she got a cat in the midst of the trial about the children. (Which I would say is damn good advice) She got the cat anyway and stressed it so much the cat was shaking when I came to see it. She eventually sold it (thank god) She also got a fishtank in which she put too many fishes (pirahnas) so they also were stressed out and some of them jumped out of the fishtank. She finally sold the surviving fish along with the tank.
Her parents on top of sending her money, have paied for several lawyers promising to get her the children back, which she of course never will, so her father who was supposed to retire last year, couldnt, but keeps working himself to the bone paying for all her escapades. Even back when she had a car, she would park it against the traffick and then send the ticket to her parents -Who paied it!
Other times she couldnt find the fan in the car so she drove really slow looking out the windows of the car to see where she was going. (The windows were fogged up) Other cars would honk their horns at her in irritation (completely understandable, I was so ashamed) and she would reply by flipping them the finger like a 3 year old child.
About the ex
He has physically fought her off, one time she came completely uncoherent to me saying something about his girlfriend having tried to stab her and he had ripped of her nail. She showed me the bloody stump. He has stolen from her multiple times, used her sexually and overall treated her horribly throughout the years but it has absolutely NO effect on her. She still comes back and bangs his door. I am now so desperate I have anononymously asked him how I get rid of her? Does he have any tips?
Today I called social services and asked them for advice aswell and although they couldnt reveal they knew her, we talked a bit "up in the air" presumably about it and they gave me the advice to only say Hi when I meet her out and then leave and to NEVER open the door for her or engage in any form of conversation. I will apply that advice on not talking to her outside anymore, even though I do it out of fear for what she might do.
I also moved 6 years ago and didn't tell her where, she questioned the tenant that moved in after me, who gave her my adress and so she started coming by here aswell.
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Now I'm wondering.. What the hell is going on here? For those religious of you out there, am I dealing with a demon, just mental illness, both or what? HOW do I get rid of her once and for all? She can call me time and time again despite me having blocked her and she keeps ringing my door despite Ive clearly said I want nothing more to do with her. She grabbed me outside just yesterday when on my bike. In the midst of cycling, she'd run to me and grab my arm so I had to stop. I cant get rid of her! She does the same to her ex, the drugusing boyfriend, he cant get rid of her either no matter what he does to her.
Forum people, help! What in the heck do I have to do to get rid of her?
(Sorry if its written unorderly, I have brainfog. )
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