Marriage or singledom for Christians - which is the better option?

[Vytas]

Lol must be a cat.

 

[Vixy]

Umm, sweetie, you were probably catfished by an online guy you never even met. He's probably a mama's boy living in her basement or a registered sex offender for all you know. Check out MTV's Catfished. Sometimes it's a woman pretending to be a man even. Please don't get emotionally involved with a dude not willing to ever meet you. Trust me. Made that mistake in my 20s and regretted it. Although he never misled me with a hot guy picture. I knew he was obese and unattractive, but I'm not shallow so it didn't bother me. I think I felt a bit sorry for him and he was a good listener. Also had really low self-esteem.

LoL nohoho, haha!

Sweetie, I looked him up first thing, see in my country all information about a person's completely open to anyone, their social security number, their adress, what they make a year, their taxes, their marriage status, if they own a dog, what car they drive and the license plate, if they own a condo and yadda yadda.. It takes 2 secs via numerous websites to find that out so it's the first thing women do over here to check someone isn't lying, is married, living with another woman, a criminal, what kind of crime did he commit if he was and how long ago and everything like that. And he checked out fine. I even found out he owns a very nice expensive condo and right where he said he lived which is in a good neighbourhood in Stockholm. He works as a security guard.

I've never dated a guy that still lived at his mothers and was over 20 years old. Is that common where you come from? I've only heard of one like that over here and he is a former model who got stuck in drugs. Met him a few years ago and wow, goodlooking still but mentally he's like a 14 year old kid. And he's 40+ now so nobody wanted him bc they sensed something was wrong.

I have heard though, that in the US everything like what we can find out here is closed information. Isnt that really creepy? You could be dating a married guy without knowing it. Has anyone tried that with you?

Oh wait, my friend was catfished several times I think tho.. But it was on facebook by black women from africa. He's bipolar so he's clueless. We've all told him it's a scam, I mean it's obvious. Why would a black woman from the other side of the earth ask a guy she's known for a month for money? But he's so desperate he actually send them money in pure hope so nothing we can do for him if he wants to get scammed. They set a date to come here and marry him aswell but ofc never showed. It's sad how desperate he is.

Ps; The Stockholm guy has an instagram account, I can give you the adress so you can check him out for yourself. He's still hot stuff and has funny videos of himself on there if you'd like to see plus we also webcammed several times. God, I wasnt born yesterday, haha!

Oh fuck it, behold the narcissist: http://instagr.am/p/BZULhAsDFos/
ofc he's aged a bit but yeah..still okay. He used to look like this back in the day:

http://www.bilddump.se/bilder/20190829224051-178.174.198.215.jpg

The beard's gotta go tho: http://instagr.am/p/B0RGS6mCXnV/ NO likei!

 

[Haich]

"Yea ya better run, lil' niggah, ruuuun!" (No racism intended)

Oh shut up.

 

[Haich]

How can you say 'nigga' then 'no racism intended'

 

[JoChris]

I'm very happily divorced...

Though it took a long time to see it that way..

I do sympathise with people who divorce because of adultery, domestic violence (including severe emotional abuse) etc. There is a lot of divorce in my own family for those reasons.


Christians should do their absolute best to avoid it though. Obviously if the husband and wife work on loving each other they would never do above mentioned things either.

 

[justjess]

LoL nohoho, haha!

Sweetie, I looked him up first thing, see in my country all information about a person's completely open to anyone, their social security number, their adress, what they make a year, their taxes, their marriage status, if they own a dog, what car they drive and the license plate, if they own a condo and yadda yadda.. It takes 2 secs via numerous websites to find that out so it's the first thing women do over here to check someone isn't lying, is married, living with another woman, a criminal, what kind of crime did he commit if he was and how long ago and everything like that. And he checked out fine. I even found out he owns a very nice expensive condo and right where he said he lived which is in a good neighbourhood in Stockholm. He works as a security guard.

I've never dated a guy that still lived at his mothers and was over 20 years old. Is that common where you come from? I've only heard of one like that over here and he is a former model who got stuck in drugs. Met him a few years ago and wow, goodlooking still but mentally he's like a 14 year old kid. And he's 40+ now so nobody wanted him bc they sensed something was wrong.

I have heard though, that in the US everything like what we can find out here is closed information. Isnt that really creepy? You could be dating a married guy without knowing it. Has anyone tried that with you?

Oh wait, my friend was catfished several times I think tho.. But it was on facebook by black women from africa. He's bipolar so he's clueless. We've all told him it's a scam, I mean it's obvious. Why would a black woman from the other side of the earth ask a guy she's known for a month for money? But he's so desperate he actually send them money in pure hope so nothing we can do for him if he wants to get scammed. They set a date to come here and marry him aswell but ofc never showed. It's sad how desperate he is.

Ps; The Stockholm guy has an instagram account, I can give you the adress so you can check him out for yourself. He's still hot stuff and has funny videos of himself on there if you'd like to see plus we also webcammed several times. God, I wasnt born yesterday, haha!

Oh fuck it, behold the narcissist: http://instagr.am/p/BZULhAsDFos/
ofc he's aged a bit but yeah..still okay. He used to look like this back in the day:

http://www.bilddump.se/bilder/20190829224051-178.174.198.215.jpg

The beard's gotta go tho: http://instagr.am/p/B0RGS6mCXnV/ NO likei!

He owns a condo but lives with his mom? That makes zero sense

 

[JoChris]

He owns a condo but lives with his mom? That makes zero sense

In Australia there are quite a few people (young people especially) who live with relatives/ friends and rent out their own property for tax purposes.
You get handouts for rental properties, not your own home. (A factor in why real estate is overpriced here.)

 

[justjess]

In Australia there are quite a few people (young people especially) who live with relatives/ friends and rent out their own property for tax purposes.
You get handouts for rental properties, not your own home. (A factor in why real estate is overpriced here.)

So your saying you get welfare to be able to rent a home but not to buy a home? Ok. I’m pretty sure that’s how it is everywhere... don’t see how that’s relevant since this man owns the condo and lives with his parents. It doesn’t appear welfare chasing is an issue.

If he made a wise financial decision to make money and living with his mom is part of that... thats far from some sad sack living in mommy’s basement because he can’t get his life together.

Also she stated the condo he OWNS is in the neighborhood he said he lived in. So if anything it sounds like his mom lives with HIM.

 

[elsbet]

Well, one would think its an alligator right but nah, it's way more common than that and speaking of her, she beat up another one like her in the garden yesterday. I watched him run away like he was stung like a bee and could almost hear her "Yea ya better run, lil' niggah, ruuuun!" (No racism intended) Horribly violent, I tell ya..horribly.

LOL!

 

[Dalit]

LoL nohoho, haha!

Sweetie, I looked him up first thing, see in my country all information about a person's completely open to anyone, their social security number, their adress, what they make a year, their taxes, their marriage status, if they own a dog, what car they drive and the license plate, if they own a condo and yadda yadda.. It takes 2 secs via numerous websites to find that out so it's the first thing women do over here to check someone isn't lying, is married, living with another woman, a criminal, what kind of crime did he commit if he was and how long ago and everything like that. And he checked out fine. I even found out he owns a very nice expensive condo and right where he said he lived which is in a good neighbourhood in Stockholm. He works as a security guard.

I've never dated a guy that still lived at his mothers and was over 20 years old. Is that common where you come from? I've only heard of one like that over here and he is a former model who got stuck in drugs. Met him a few years ago and wow, goodlooking still but mentally he's like a 14 year old kid. And he's 40+ now so nobody wanted him bc they sensed something was wrong.

I have heard though, that in the US everything like what we can find out here is closed information. Isnt that really creepy? You could be dating a married guy without knowing it. Has anyone tried that with you?

Oh wait, my friend was catfished several times I think tho.. But it was on facebook by black women from africa. He's bipolar so he's clueless. We've all told him it's a scam, I mean it's obvious. Why would a black woman from the other side of the earth ask a guy she's known for a month for money? But he's so desperate he actually send them money in pure hope so nothing we can do for him if he wants to get scammed. They set a date to come here and marry him aswell but ofc never showed. It's sad how desperate he is.

Ps; The Stockholm guy has an instagram account, I can give you the adress so you can check him out for yourself. He's still hot stuff and has funny videos of himself on there if you'd like to see plus we also webcammed several times. God, I wasnt born yesterday, haha!

Oh fuck it, behold the narcissist: http://instagr.am/p/BZULhAsDFos/
ofc he's aged a bit but yeah..still okay. He used to look like this back in the day:

http://www.bilddump.se/bilder/20190829224051-178.174.198.215.jpg

The beard's gotta go tho: http://instagr.am/p/B0RGS6mCXnV/ NO likei!

Wow, looks like a douche. There was once a dude at my gym who wore a crimson colored robe and a big golden belt and he just strutted around. Didn't work out, didn't talk to anyone, just walked around like he was Mr. Gold's Gym. Perhaps he was hired by them to be a male model that day. Only saw him that one time and that was more than enough. I was snickering on the elliptical. Good times.

 

[JoChris]

So your saying you get welfare to be able to rent a home but not to buy a home? Ok. I’m pretty sure that’s how it is everywhere... don’t see how that’s relevant since this man owns the condo and lives with his parents. It doesn’t appear welfare chasing is an issue.

If he made a wise financial decision to make money and living with his mom is part of that... thats far from some sad sack living in mommy’s basement because he can’t get his life together.

Also she stated the condo he OWNS is in the neighborhood he said he lived in. So if anything it sounds like his mom lives with HIM.

No, I mean there are people who rent/ houseshare and use their own house with a mortgage as an investment property because there are tax deductions for landlords, not homeowners in Australia.
Your suggestion would be very feasible. If the man has a healthy relationship with his mother then win-win.

 

[justjess]

No, I mean there are people who rent/ houseshare and use their own house with a mortgage as an investment property because there are tax deductions for landlords, not homeowners in Australia.
Your suggestion would be very feasible. If the man has a healthy relationship with his mother then win-win.

Ok I get it... yeah see rental income here is taxed at capital gains which is way lower than employment income as well. So it’s similar. But homeowners also are able to write off interest they paid on their mortgage and a big chunk of their property taxes. The only people who get nothing are renters.

 

[Vixy]

LOL!

Good guess and very close but nope, not a squirrel either. He's cute though, he looks like T. Pancake..

 

[Vixy]

Ahlright fine.. This is her:

You can see the evil in her eyes. Little f*cker!

She also lost all her black whiskers and white ones grew out so now it doesn't match. Looks dumb.

 

[Dalit]

Ahlright fine.. This is her:

View attachment 25181 You can see the evil in her eyes. Little f*cker!

She also lost all her black whiskers and white ones grew out so now it doesn't match. Looks dumb.

You'd love Jamie the Very Worst Missionary's cat Knives. He has his own Instagram, I think.

 

[Daciple]

Seems silly to me that there is a serious debate about this, the Bible is exceedingly clear, if you want to be single and it allows you to focus on God more then by all means do it!

If you have the desire to marry and want to have children, then by all means, do it!

It probably would be a greater and more beneficial reward overall for one to stay single and completely devote themselves to God, however the facts are we do have an inherit desire to be with others, so if that is what makes you happy then get married and make babies.

I dont even understand why there is a debate about it, it literally comes to ones personal preference, the only thing I could say is that if a person is choosing to be single and not fully dedicating their lives to God then they would probably more happy being married and having children. At least they would be doing one of the basic desires that God has instilled into us...

But its to each their own and I dont think there ought to be judgement either way as to which direction one chooses to go as long as you are following God...

 

[Lisa]

the only thing I could say is that if a person is choosing to be single and not fully dedicating their lives to God

How does one dedicate their lives to God do you think?

When did God change?

Genesis‬ ‭2:23-25‬ ‭
The man said, “This is now bone of my bones, And flesh of my flesh; She shall be called Woman, Because she was taken out of Man.” For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh. And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed.”
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[Daciple]

How does one dedicate their lives to God do you think?

When did God change?

Genesis‬ ‭2:23-25‬ ‭​

The man said, “This is now bone of my bones, And flesh of my flesh; She shall be called Woman, Because she was taken out of Man.” For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh. And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed.”​

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Idk how about follow Pauls example? Was he married or have kids? Did he dedicate his life to God do you think?

I have zero clue why you would take issue with it, but it is par for the course for you lately...

 

[Lisa]

Idk how about follow Pauls example? Was he married or have kids? Did he dedicate his life to God do you think?

I have zero clue why you would take issue with it, but it is par for the course for you lately...

True, Paul didn’t get married and he worked for God but Peter was married. Even Paul says that he wishes people stay single not that people need to do that, because God said that its not good for man to be alone.

Why not take issue with it if I feel its wrong? Should I go along to get along or should we be talking about truth here? Truth matters.

 

[JoChris]

How does one dedicate their lives to God do you think?

When did God change?

Genesis‬ ‭2:23-25‬ ‭​

The man said, “This is now bone of my bones, And flesh of my flesh; She shall be called Woman, Because she was taken out of Man.” For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh. And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed.”​

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There are many parts to a person's life other than their marital status.
Personal identity is formed on way more factors than whether you are single or not.

e.g. God also told Adam to take dominion over the earth.
Genesis 1:28 And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth.

Does that mean every person should be involved in farming, landcare and agriculture?