Chara
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I actually had a copy of this book as a kid, and I’m not entirely sure why I did, because I’m Shinto. We don’t really go in for that sort of thing. I did grow up in an area with a lot of evangelical churches, so it’s likely that I got one as some promotional thing from one of them but I didn’t really look at it until I was in college, and I found it... weird. It taught some of the same stuff I was (sex is how you make more humans, and that you should be prepared to deal with that potential outcome, that it’s best to only do it if you’re married), but a lot of it was off to me. I wouldn’t want my dad that involved in picking out my husband- I know a lot of cultures do have arranged marriages that seem to work out okay, but I wouldn’t want my dad that involved. It reminds me of the Duggar family, who I wouldn’t trust any further than I could throw all what, 22 of them at once? Remind me to tell you all my theory on them some time.
I also read an article in the newspaper a few months ago about how badly the religious purity movement screwed people up, especially people who were assaulted, because of the focus it had on “not causing people to think sexual thoughts.” One lady had been molested by a relative and when she attempted to get help from a priest at the church he told her something along the lines of “it’s your fault for being too sexy.” What the hell? If I find the article again I’ll link it.
I don’t know, maybe I’m just a heathen and therefore don’t get it, but I’m suspicious of anything that tries to control behavior and something as instinctual as picking the person you marry to that extent, and anything that would try to excuse creepy perverts by blaming the person who was attacked.
I also read an article in the newspaper a few months ago about how badly the religious purity movement screwed people up, especially people who were assaulted, because of the focus it had on “not causing people to think sexual thoughts.” One lady had been molested by a relative and when she attempted to get help from a priest at the church he told her something along the lines of “it’s your fault for being too sexy.” What the hell? If I find the article again I’ll link it.
I don’t know, maybe I’m just a heathen and therefore don’t get it, but I’m suspicious of anything that tries to control behavior and something as instinctual as picking the person you marry to that extent, and anything that would try to excuse creepy perverts by blaming the person who was attacked.